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Yeah I get all that, I don’t care about that tbh. All I am concerned about is how to steer things away from those serious topics when she keeps bringing it up especially when I tried to do so as you see there.
As men, the strongest tool we have is silence; women are attracted to men who show unclear feelings, here is the study: https://www.psychologicalscience.or...racted-to-men-whose-feelings-are-unclear.html
So basically only engage her when it’s a topic or convo you want to have but also lead the convo. However, if she keeps bringing things back to a topic you don’t like, then silence. Am I right?
Unless it's a deal breaker then you should address it like the previous messages I posted about the chick who couldn't afford swimming, like I have no intent to date a bum so now I'm gonna have fun and insult her but if that wasn't a deal breaker i would just be silent, I'd pay, but I'd keep my feelings on paying unclear to her.
I’m confused, the girl I talked to wasn’t talking about paying
you can only text your way out the gates never into it
Lol ok bro
Right? That’s what I thought too. Glad someone agrees with me
Fair enough. But I did try to divert the convo several times (if you actually read it)
It’s funny how now that I am trying conversation as everyone on this forum was telling me to do, it’s suddenly the wrong thing to do.
no ones told you to have text sessions with women, its well documented on the forum, in favour of keeping texts ltd.
Haha... I was wondering if I was going to read this comment by the time I got to the end of this thread. I can see why you would be frustrated by the input. In terms of small talk, I think your conversation was fine. You don't give yourself enough credit as being a conversationalist. Even if you hate it, you are not as dismal at it as you think. The mirroring worked, and you expanded on her points. I guess the thing to do, would have been what atomsmasher suggested, and simply just change the subject until she went with the flow.
It's not the conversation that was bad it's the content of the conversation that was bad. There was nothing remotely interesting or exciting about that Convo that would make you stick out in a positive way.
Well - first you should have just stopped once you had the date set unless SHE kept the conversation going. Second, to answer your more general question, you ask her questions. Lots of questions. About her. Most women love talking about themselves. You don’t volunteer information about yourself at all unless she specifically asks and then keep it brief like I said before. But it’s more about her talking pre-1st date and on the 1st date (and early on in general).
Yeah I know that’s why I hate conversation because I need to talk in some weird other tongue that I don’t understand or enjoy
Actually several people told me that I was being too abrupt and direct and should adopt a more conversational style. It’s also well documented on this forum
Ah, yes I agree. Thank you for clarifying
