I found this and I agree with most of it. Although the advice I have received from this forum is priceless. And yes I am finding it is working for me slowly.. But in time the pace will quicken.
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Why is it that some men can have one date after another, while others can barely date once a month? Why is it that some men have that loving and supportive wife, while others get a divorce in less than ten years? Why is it that some men, even though they could be tall and reasonably nice looking can't get a woman to look at him, while the shorter and average-looking guy can???
Are you one of those who have a hard time trying to find a good woman? Do you have a hard time just trying to get one at least interested in you?
Here are the 5 reasons why so many men can't find a good woman. You may not like some of them, but nevertheless, these are facts that you need to address. Once you read this article, hopefully a light bulb will come on for you. Once you know the reasons why this happens, then you can do something about it.
1. Men who say that it is tough finding her are usually the ones who exaggerate their problem, and, they don't approach and date that many women to begin with.
If you think it is really hard to find a good woman to settle down with, we would like to ask you this: How many times do you date a month? How many women do you approach every month? Is it is just a couple of times, if that? If you do the math, it's not that many times to where you should be feeling like this. Unless this has happened within the last year or two.
2. They think too much with their hormones. They want to date her STRICTLY because of the way she looks. The odds are MUCH higher that this "hot girl" is nothing but "a man's worse nightmare. Why can't they settle for a very cute woman who has that hot personality? If they want her to be very attractive, they shouldn't whine that "it's hard to find a good woman out there."
3. Their "wish list" for a particular woman is way too high. No one should settle, but one should at least lower it to be a bit more realistic, and with the odds in their favor. We once corresponded with a gentleman who only dates brunettes, yet he stated that "it's tough out there." Gee!
4. They follow lame advice written by men, who thinks THEY know what works with women. The men who read such books make it EVEN harder on themselves.
5. They say they have looked everywhere for the answer on why they can't find her. They asked their family and friends, read scores of books, they did the Internet personals, asked other men on Internet message boards... But, do they listen to the advice that is given to them? Oddly enough, most don't. Are you one of them?
So, are we saying that it is their fault, and that it is easy to find her? Yes and no. Yes, it is their fault, and no, many times it isn't easy. Especially if you live in an area where the men outnumber the women, like Alaska. But, most of the time it is easy. Men who live in such areas should move. Easier said than done? Perhaps. But it can be done. They have two choices. Move, or remain in that lonely situation.
In most cases, it is very easy to find her. It's just a matter of approaching a few women every week. How long do you think it would take before you found that right one for you then? And, once you leave your hormones at home, and lower your standards, you will find yourself getting plenty of dates with very cute women who can make you laugh and feel good about yourself.