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I've had a **** buddy thing for 4 years. At one point she and I were in love and started thinking about being together. I got freaked out that things were going well, got scared of losing her, and acted out in jealousy. Seriously scared her away, out of my own fear. I also never demonstrated...

I've finally tried out some good stuff. Still working on the personal reform but it feels real good so far. If it sounds like Californication, I just started watching the show. There is no point to this other than to share what I've learned. Which is to mostly not care about outcome and to be...

I don't know where to start. There is a girl I've know for a long time and been fwb with for years. We both loved each other at one point last year. Then I screwed up and she felt like we wouldn't ever make a good couple. Too many issues to commit to a relationship with me. We went through some...

This is mostly venting but here goes. The girl I was seeing was one I had on a pedestal for literally years. She sat on the fence when it came to me. In February we stopped talking. 3 months later I had transformed myself physically and mentally. I went from scrawny to being respectably...

It has been a while since I posted here. Just want to share my experience. My relationship fell apart completely and I changed my life mentally and physically. The self control the gym is teaching is spilling over and helping me finally grow the hell up. The gym had always been a one week...

After years of learning tid-bits here and there, I still didn't get "it". I used what I learned selectively and only towards one woman I thought I loved (there is no such thing as love but that is another discussion. Spoiler: it's a fantasy). That obviously did not work well for anyone...

Hello gentlemen, I am David and I have a few words of unsolicited advice. Workout and start now. You will wish you had every day. My life would have been drastically different by now. Yours can be. You will never look back and see it as time wasted, unlike 95% of other things in life...

My ex and I had a rocky relationship. I lied to her about some ridiculous things and she stopped loving me because of it. I needed to change and I knew she was worth it. I can admit my flaws. She knows I was trying to win her back. She gave hope but I just found out she is seeing someone...

I'm a nice guy. He needs to die and be buried in the AFC mass grave. Frustrated to the point of being a complete ***** before and ruining all chances with a woman I thought I loved. Being the sensitive type got me trampled. How did you kill off the nice guy in yourself once and for...

SS seems to be obsessed with personal growth and BPD issues. Here's a new one y'all might have some advice on: I was the BPD in my relationship. Pretty much everything it entails was/is me spot on. I recognize this and want to be the opposite. I have always been "sensitive", wear my heart on...

The woman I had been seeing finally had enough. We argued a lot. The last argument was completely AFC of me. She wasn't making time for me and I said she didn't care, didn't respect me, ect. I know I shouldn't have said anything, but should have acted accordingly. I wanted her to start...

So, I felt I was getting the run around. I took a good hard look at this relationship. I was boarding on needy. I pulled back immediately yet tactfully. She even said things along the lines of "you're quiet". I laughed it off and didn't make a big deal of anything. Asked her to do something...

Many people will tell you never to change who you are. What if you realize you would be happier being different from you nature? This is where I fall. As a negatively biased person, I am not a happy-go-lucky, let it roll off your back kind of guy. It damages my self confidence on a daily...

A woman I am kind of seeing made some choices I didn't like. Accordingly I withdrew attention as to not reward such behavior on Friday. This morning all hell breaks loose and she loses it on me. She was livid that my communication has been "sporadic" and "shady". Admittedly, I wasn't...

To get my mind off a woman I foolishly lost and to look better for the sake of replacing her (secretly to win her back), I am throwing myself into lifting and getting in ridiculously good shape... Both mentally and physically. This is my journal to track progress and have a form of...

I had been going out with an actual high quality woman since February. I'd known her for over a year and we occasionally got together in that time. It would always end in a fight and some time of not getting along/talking superficially. In January I made significant changes in my life, which...

Anyone else always hear "you're cute"? I took it as a compliment for a long time until I realized it's not. Puppies and little kids are describe the same way. I think my appearance betrays any alpha type conditioning I learn. Anyone ever find a way to go from being cute to sexy? Also...

Got LJBF'd by this girl a few months ago. Things were bad between us for a while and I did my fair share of AFC chasing. I cut back on contact by about 90% and suddenly she's into hanging out more. She's coming over to my apartment to study this weekend (definitely happening with no...

How do you guys get trough a slump. This is the worst day I've ever had. I mean zero self confidence, every little and big thing has fallen to ****, and feel like everything is pointless. I've never had so little passion for life and wanted to spill my guts out to a woman so badly. I know for...

I've had serious, pathetic, ridiculous oneitis for a chick for about ten months. AFC, right? I begged this chick to even just be friends; as recently as today. She also has a boyfriend. How could it get more pathetic? **** it, I said. I got rejected by "the one" yet again today. So just damn...