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This thread isn't about anything technical, it's about a struggle between fear and unhappiness. I am very, very unhappy. I want to feel good about myself, and proud of my ability to attract women. And I've tried over the years to address this part of my life...I've read many books and been on...

Look, most of what this site says is crap. Don't trust anyone here. I brainwashed myself with Don Juan principles to the point where I was proficient in parroting it back into the discussion forum...to the point where it sounded like I knew what I was talking about. And I'm sure a lot of you...

My suitemate is one of those guys that many girls love. I'm not about to call him AFC....he's not Average, he's not Frustrated, and he's not a Chump. (Furthermore before you ever think about labeling anyone else an "AFC" consider whether they embody what the acronym stands for. AFC does not...

I just watched this show today. For those of you who don't know what it is, MTV is following two filthy stinkin' rich girls around, videotaping them. One is pretty cute, the other is amazingly unattractive. I mean, wow, it's hard to look at this girl. Through this show, I witnessed new...

I am incredibly frustrated with these kinds of girls. Thank God there are not too many of them, but enough to annoy me. Have you ever known a girl in your circle of friends who would always be around you, but NEVER initiate any conversation with you, or look at you, and when you talked to...

As some of you might know, I started taking martial arts because I wanted to a) feel proud of myself for something b) develop an i-don't-give-a-crud attitude. It's a good distraction. It's also a pretty hardcore passtime. I will not feel intimidated if I'm in a room of jocks because I will...

I've just started taking a russian sambo class, and it works wonders for my self esteem. It's very therapeutic for me even though my entire body hurts like hel1 afterwards. But I'm worried about getting cauliflower ears. I heard that you're supposed to drain your ear if it gets red and...

I see a girl in the cafeteria. I smile, she smiles. I say "You're in my writing class!" She says "Yeah!!!" We eat together. We eat in a group of 5, but we two are the only ones talking. We talk to each other. I say "Well next time you go to writing class, make a copy of something for me...

My cousin is acting as a go-between for me and her friend. I told my cousin I liked her friend and then today I receive a call from her friend (we'll call her J) inviting me over to watch a movie with her and her suitemates. I know J is single. She is also shy, and a "good girl". Not...

I've hooked up with random chicks twice in a row when I was completely drunk. I'd just dance on the dancefloor and get them dancin dirty then kiss them. Pretty simple deal. Well I'm not consuming one drop of alcohol tonight. I am going to work myself into a trance-like state of supreme...

Last night I was kind of depressed because a phone call with my Saturday night random hookup did not go well. She seemed ashamed of having made out with me after knowing me for 20 minutes (we were both drunk). But anyway, she was hot and then she shied away so I was all down last night. Then...

So I come back from clubbing with my cuz on Friday night, at around 2:30. (Danced up a few HBs, got a number :)) The nerd that I am, I go online after I come home. I'm half drunk by then. This girl I've been talking to online IMs me. To refresh your memories, we met online and realized we...

Before you all say this is AFC, I must tell you I witnessed the following mini-conversation take place and WORK: Guy: So say something. Girl: Say what? Guy: I don't know. Anything. Something interesting. Girl: Uuuummmm, I can't think of anything interesting. Guy: Something about...

I recommend that anyone having trouble with women should buy and read some books on cultivating positive self-esteem. And I'll tell you why. I was talking to my friend who is a pretty good DJ. We were talking and I forget how it came up, but he mentioned how I was neurotic. He was right. I...

I think that a crucial part of learning and growing into a DJ is personal transformation, and the biggest aid to transformation is acceptance of the idea that you have not, by any means, learned all there is to know about yourself. I seem to have a few tricks up my sleeve yet. Namely, being a...

I talked to this girl online. It turned out she lives 5 minutes from my home town, so of course after trading pics (she's damn hot) and talking online, we trade phone numbers. She plays games on the phone, kind of breaks my balls and I say "why do I want to talk to someone who insists on...

In mid-september, I go back to college. I'm living on an off-campus dorm this time. Most sophomores are living in their own apartments or in houses, I'm not because I procrastinated the issue of housing until the last second...so I chose a last resort. But it might not be that bad. The suite...

THE PARTY A friend and I went up to my college town for a weekend (I'm at home for the summer) to visit a friend of mine who's spending his summer up there. I used to have a very bad routine at parties. What I did a long time ago was get drunk and hit on every single girl in sight. Fifteen...

At the risk of being flamed for being an AFC with One-itis... There are some girls who I don't simply lust for, they make me feel. They're usually not incredibly attractive at the physical level, but they wake up something different in me. I do the nearly impossible: I feel SEXUALLY attracted...

I live in a partying college town. For most of this year my best hope to get any action was to hook up with a drunk girl at a kegger. Obviously I've grown tired of having little/no opportunity for success; I never talked to any girls during the day or in class I always thought I'd get...