Im not married yet but emotional stability is the main battle that women fight. The constant arguing. It is hell. Like I said all women have a hidden evil. Was she like this before the marriage? What was she like? Was she submissive?
Did you ever try to let the drama play out? Like dont giving a fvck and ignore her as long as she behaves like that?Typically arguments. Ones that often start over some stupid stuff.
If I didn't de-escalate, the argument would never end. This b*tch fvcking loves to argue. I should have cared more about how she communicates with her mom.
I can't even just stop responding to an argument. She'll just stay pissy for days after, even if I've long forgotten about it.
She loves to argue, and loves to not let go of it.
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Well, we argued less because you just have less to argue about when you're dating than when you're married with child(ren).Was she like this before the marriage? What was she like? Was she submissive?
I did this and it went a week and a half with almost no talking, no touching, no sex/intimacy.Did you ever try to let the drama play out? Like dont giving a fvck and ignore her as long as she behaves like that?
I've done this. In small doses, it works okay, but overall it ends up being that if I don't smooth the waters - they just stay turmoiled.What would happen if you would start creating drama and reverse the roles?
yeah, it's absolutely possible. I struggle to hold my tongue when she does sh*t intentionally to irritate me. I know this is a *me* problem.Did you consider that your de-escalating and not calling her out on the BS/putting sanctions on her could be robbing her of a stoic hard man that is not at all affected by her bytching?
I can relate to that, its hard for me to, to not get back at her when she starts throwing dirt.yeah, it's absolutely possible. I struggle to hold my tongue when she does sh*t intentionally to irritate me. I know this is a *me* problem.
This sounds great, but there's a 0% chance I can make it more than a few days without planting my seed somewhere.It might be a challenge but id also try to not initiate sex for a longer period of time..... let her wonder for a month or two what happened and why you arent interested in her anymore. Get her imagination working and see what happens.
Nobody can kick you out of the house. That is also one of the biggest mistakes men make is that thinking because your wife tells you to leave that you have to leave. No you don't. Any divorce lawyer will tell you DON'T DO IT because you are willingly giving up substantial rights if you do, not only to the house itself but also in terms of custody.Your risks are substantial. You could come home from work one day and be handed divorce papers and an order of protection based on fictitious and unproven allegations. Then you are kicked out of your own house and don't even get to see your daughter for a while, until the court is done raping you. 25% of your income until the child is 18, sometimes even longer in some states, and another 25% to her as alimony for I'd guess another two years or so. You might have to pay her attorneys fees and will certainly have to pay your own.
So understand your risks and mitigate them. The only good divorce is a friendly one.
Don't worry guys. I don't even sleep on the couch after arguments.Nobody can kick you out of the house. That is also one of the biggest mistakes men make is that thinking because your wife tells you to leave that you have to leave. No you don't. Any divorce lawyer will tell you DON'T DO IT because you are willingly giving up substantial rights if you do, not only to the house itself but also in terms of custody.
Contact the police and make a record saying that you are refusing to leave your house and you want a record of this in case she tries to make up any false reports to get you out.
I genuinely don't understand where you're getting this from.Honestly it seems like you view this as less of a marriage and more of a master-slave relationship
It happened to my dad. I'm almost positive it was my mom's lawyers idea. The law here just says you have to "feel threatened" to get an order of protection. They almost always rubber stamp them for women alleging abuse, because if they denied it and the woman got murdered, the judge would look bad. But yes, wife, roommate, hell probably your very close neighbor could all conceivably force you out of your house if they got a protective order. They don't last forever, but it baits the person into violating it, which is an instant trip to jail.Nobody can kick you out of the house. That is also one of the biggest mistakes men make is that thinking because your wife tells you to leave that you have to leave. No you don't. Any divorce lawyer will tell you DON'T DO IT because you are willingly giving up substantial rights if you do, not only to the house itself but also in terms of custody.
Contact the police and make a record saying that you are refusing to leave your house and you want a record of this in case she tries to make up any false reports to get you out.
That's why you contact the police first and then you have it on record. Making false statements is not looked at lightly in court or by the police.It happened to my dad. I'm almost positive it was my mom's lawyers idea. The law here just says you have to "feel threatened" to get an order of protection. They almost always rubber stamp them for women alleging abuse, because if they denied it and the woman got murdered, the judge would look bad. But yes, wife, roommate, hell probably your very close neighbor could all conceivably force you out of your house if they got a protective order. They don't last forever, but it baits the person into violating it, which is an instant trip to jail.
In all honesty I think that's a much lower priority than getting your house in order.I mean "start gaming other women".
I don't know how you married guys tolerate woman who unessaseraly argue, act out all masculine and combative.Typically arguments. Ones that often start over some stupid stuff.
If I didn't de-escalate, the argument would never end. This b*tch fvcking loves to argue. I should have cared more about how she communicates with her mom.
I can't even just stop responding to an argument. She'll just stay pissy for days after, even if I've long forgotten about it.
She loves to argue, and loves to not let go of it.
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I think you should talk to a lawyer anyway so that you don’t hold divorce as an option because you’re gonna get railroaded no matter what you do and that’ll sober you the F up.Okay guys thanks for the divorce tips and all that but I'm not even at the point of talking to a lawyer.
I will be if the woman doesn't shape up, but right now I need to fix my game. And by "fix my game" I mean "start gaming other women".
Youre right on not leaving, but if she files for restraint she will get it, so better advice would be to seek it firstThat's why you contact the police first and then you have it on record. Making false statements is not looked at lightly in court or by the police.
Any good lawyer would skewer her in divorce court.
How does one do this when a wife takes a husband for granted and thinks he has no other options for sex?In all honesty I think that's a much lower priority than getting your house in order.