Zonatto's Journal of Progress

[Amo]

why dont u just be honest with a girl? DONT BE DISGUSTING OR RUDE IN ANY WAY! but tell her how u feel..........if ur afraid of being shot down then sometimes when u see a girl look at her and see if she sees u too.... if she lookes ur way smile at her ....not a big goofy grin but a nice small smile! after a little while tell her u like her...... if she does shoot u down oh well move on..... XD

If you do this, I will personally hunt you down and punch you in the face. Don't even.

 

[Ajbobtom]

I know what you mean. My middle school was actually in my highschool, and I screwed that sh!t up for a while. I was cool in school, but never hung out with anyone outside of school. It took me 4 years at the same school to figure out what I posted above, and I feel like no matter how cool I am, my reputation is permanently damaged by how AFC I was in the first 4 years. Yet, maybe that's just our perception of ourselves. I talked with my friend about this, and he said he doesn't think anyone views me like that anymore. Maybe you're the one putting all the pressure on yourself.

Alex, the problem here isn't your reputation. The problem lies with in the environment its self. Today I went to my old Middle School. I was a terribly shy and awkward kid back then. So when I got up to speak to all the little kiddies, I sank back into that mindset and its actions. As soon as I realized this is why I wasn't feeling good about speaking in front of these kids, I changed my mindset.
I did have help changing. I almost ran over me and a friend with the Robot we were showing the kids. This broke my awkward moment, and gave me an opportunity to rag on my self. After I did that, I was back to normal.

Its not you its the environment, and the mindset it trained you into. It may take a while to break that learned behavior, but its possible. You can force this along by rewarding your self, or having some one reward you.

Take what you want from what I have typed here. Good luck man.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

If you do this, I will personally hunt you down and punch you in the face. Don't even.

I'll punch you in the face just to keep these people doing this for the entertainment value.

 

[zonatto]

Oh my God I abandoned my own journal! LOL, I haven't been using my computer or going on this site much in the past month.

Sooo I've been getting better at teasing girls and having fun with them and I'm trying to not focus on one girl but go for a bunch of different ones.
Body language and voice is something i need to improve though -- a few approaches were kinda unsuccessful i think because of how i was talking and acting. I want to get my voice naturally lower and louder.

One of my new electives is guitar, so I get to play every day in school.
I've been practicing freestyle rapping, beatboxing, aaand now I'm making electronic music on my computer . I kind of abandoned drawing though. I just never felt the drive to like i did before.
I changed my weight lifting routine a bit to improve my back and arms more. I'm gonna be doing track by the end of this month so i won't be lifting much and i want to progress as much as i can before then.

I'm trying to learn more from experience -- no more reading pages and pages of techniques and little details, i want to be natural. why worry about doing all these little routines when you can just naturally act right and know what to do?

 

[Mindgamez]

Yeah that's the way to go! Act natural!
I realized myself that the less you care about doing good, the better you actually do. When I just say what I want to say and I don't care if she likes it or not, she ends up giving a positive response anyway. It's kind of counter intuitive but it works for me lool.

Music for the win! Beatboxing is fun. Keep doing what you like!

 

[zonatto]

So following what i said in the post before, i guess i haven't been going on sites like this as much. Which is why my posts aren't frequent. It's not like nothing's going on though.

Track and Field started. doin' that, practices every day. blahblah

Recently i came across a problem. I've been aaaall about joking around with kino and I've also been a jerk a lot. This wouldn't be as bad but I don't even it out with real, serious moments. Turns out this doesn't work so well and girls get annoyed.

I read about that happening but nothing really teaches me this stuff like experience.

So I'm gonna try and chill out, and stop kinoing long enough to have a decent f-king conversation.

(I really should post more because i know it'll help me looking back on what i've learned. Also, can i change this thread title? I want it to say it's a journal. I love all the advice you guys give, thanks.)

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Just tell me what you wanna call it.

 

[zonatto]

Zonatto's Journal of Progress

 

[BPH]

I recommend going to MPUAForum and reading some of the threads in the PUALounge by SexAddict911, Stelar, and Warped Mindless. All are good guys that get laid a ton, and their methods are effective and direct, which I personally love.

Otherwise, don't over think things, $hit tends to get worked out by itself, and just approach.

 

[zonatto]

I recommend going to MPUAForum and reading some of the threads in the PUALounge by SexAddict911, Stelar, and Warped Mindless. All are good guys that get laid a ton, and their methods are effective and direct, which I personally love.

Otherwise, don't over think things, $hit tends to get worked out by itself, and just approach.

Thanks, will do. Definitely right about the overthinking thing.

Last week, I got into 'state' by myself during school, and everything went great. This happens all the time randomly, but this time i actually thought in my head "hey, i'm in state right now." This made me want to get back into it badly.

The next day i tried to but couldn't. I totally forced myself AWAY from state because i was thinking too much about it. Lesson learned.

Today i was in state again.. I remember how it felt and how i got into it. My mind was clear, no, EMPTY. I just stopped thinking about everything that wasn't in the same room as me and suddenly had a big smile on my face .

HOW I GET IN STATE:
-Stop thinking. Literally don't think about things that aren't in front of you at the moment.
-Be relaxed and comfortable
-Keep trying to HAVE FUN where you are
-Just keep talking and interacting with everyone, doesn't matter what it's about
-DO NOT TAKE YOURSELF SERIOUSLY. getting offended kicks me out of state pretty easily. Being able to laugh at yourself makes things sooo much better

-Sometimes if I'm having a lot of fun and doing good playing sports, especially with new people, i'll go into an even better level of state where my inhibitons disappear and i don't give a single F**K what i do to anyone.

So after that, and reading some more personal experiences, i know it's possible to be in state constantly. Like, every day. Which sounded IMPOSSIBLE to me before, but there are guys who figured out, from learning game, how to BE HAPPY EVERY MINUTE OF THEIR LIVES.

That just obliterates any other goals i had. It's a complete package. The guys living life in bliss have all the other traits come along with it.

New goal. Stop thinking. Stop worrying. Enjoy all the little things in life. Do what i want. Be happy.

This is gonna be hard, i know, cuz there's plenty i'm still unsure and feel bad about. Making it a goal already gets me thinking about it too. But it's a hell of a thing to accomplish.