I wanted to add this as an addendum to the "Zen of Indifference" post Gixxer started last week. I've noticed a trend in my behavior that should not be ignored, maybe it will help some of you, because it has done wonders for me.
The last three chicks I have had sex with were exceptionally hot chicks. These are girls that, years ago, I could've never even imagined having sex with. When I met these girls the same reaction took place each time, a knee-jerk reaction that still carries over from my days as a hopeless AFC-- and that is the thought that they were too good for me. I know what you're thinking right now, this is the most damaging and counter-productive thought you can possibly have, and normally I would agree with you. But it has been my RESPONSE to these thoughts that has turned the tables in my favor and put these girls completely under my control.
You see, now when I start to have these thoughts, "she couldn't possibly want me... or... she's too hot for me," a certain feeling starts to wash over me. I like to call it "The Zen of Indifference." When I get this feeling, I just don't care anymore. It gives me the freedom to truly be myself and to let my personality take over. Before, those thoughts would have paralyzed me, and I would've been reduced to a blathering, supplicating chump. Now I realize that I have nothing to lose, and as a result I don't hold back. This has taken my game to the next level-- I banged all three of those hot girls I first felt intimidated by. The Zen of Indifference frees your mind.
It's funny, because I actually think I feel more comfortable with girls that are extremely hot. I almost feel handicapped with girls who are more "in my league," as if I could possibly screw things up by speaking my mind. Whereas with the hot girls, by assuming that all hope is lost, I have no problem taking crazy chances that I might not normally take. I guess the next step is to incorporate this attitude into my dealings with all people across all levels.
The last three chicks I have had sex with were exceptionally hot chicks. These are girls that, years ago, I could've never even imagined having sex with. When I met these girls the same reaction took place each time, a knee-jerk reaction that still carries over from my days as a hopeless AFC-- and that is the thought that they were too good for me. I know what you're thinking right now, this is the most damaging and counter-productive thought you can possibly have, and normally I would agree with you. But it has been my RESPONSE to these thoughts that has turned the tables in my favor and put these girls completely under my control.
You see, now when I start to have these thoughts, "she couldn't possibly want me... or... she's too hot for me," a certain feeling starts to wash over me. I like to call it "The Zen of Indifference." When I get this feeling, I just don't care anymore. It gives me the freedom to truly be myself and to let my personality take over. Before, those thoughts would have paralyzed me, and I would've been reduced to a blathering, supplicating chump. Now I realize that I have nothing to lose, and as a result I don't hold back. This has taken my game to the next level-- I banged all three of those hot girls I first felt intimidated by. The Zen of Indifference frees your mind.
It's funny, because I actually think I feel more comfortable with girls that are extremely hot. I almost feel handicapped with girls who are more "in my league," as if I could possibly screw things up by speaking my mind. Whereas with the hot girls, by assuming that all hope is lost, I have no problem taking crazy chances that I might not normally take. I guess the next step is to incorporate this attitude into my dealings with all people across all levels.
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