"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Zen and Seduction

Snatchmaster

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First let me thank Metaphysikal_Lover for breaking it down on the hb9.

You know, it's like I know this stuff, but I've forgotten so much being locked away in an LTR.

In my gut I know I have interest from her. It's the little basics, like watching her eye movements and such is where I needed the instruction.

When I was younger I was a natural with women, so I didn't put much analysis into my game. I just did what felt right.

Then one day I woke up to find myself an AFC with no self-confidence thanks to a very witchy woman. For a long time afterwards I didn't have enough trust in women, or myself, to make much headway.

But what I found was that when I could let myself be me, that's when I got the women. When I am in touch with myself.

This really sunk in a few years ago, while I was hanging out in Thailand.

Women were drawn to me - approaching me.

My attitude was thus:

To be host of the party around us, otherwise known as the universe.

I do not have to be in love to treat a woman kindly.

To listen to her STORY without being judgemental or offering solutions.

To be relaxed in stressful situations.


Four women I was with (whom I had met there) went away to a buddhist meditations where they were not allowed to speak.

There they were taught:

Loving Kindness
Greater Understanding
A Higher Consciousness

One girl told me, "This is what you teach, Snatchmaster."

I AM the center of the universe. So are you.

Metaphysical started to riff on this a bit with the player being one with the game.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Snatchmaster
My attitude was thus:

To be host of the party around us, otherwise known as the universe.

Occasional Gems like this are the reason I still visit this site.
 
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The goal is to take your mack to the level of zen until you become the ultimate zenmack or playersupreme.
 
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