"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Zachary Roloff with cute girlfriend

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hey

Didn't mean it in a bad way but seems she defies the "hypergamy" that women are all supposed to have in their hearts?
 

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Alot of them are thin when they are 17. She gets her 15 minutes of fame at age 17. Be sad if one of my son's brought her home.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Honestly if I could date her I'd be doing well, she is half my age after all.

I agree she is a 6 if we compare her to other girls her age. She is at least a 7 compared to the women 28 and up who will come out with me.

I guess the celebrity indeed helps him a ton.
 

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Dear Scormus,
"Does this mean there's hope and one day I can have a 9 girlfriend?".....Why would you want one?....Believe me,the Gods are motivated by Pity and not malice in denying you this dubious pleasure!
 

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I had an acquaintance who was a 9 that was married to a guy who was 6'4", a multi millionaire, good looking, just 3 years older than her.

She cleaned him out in a divorce a couple of years later. I don't know the circumstances.

But if that guy can get dumped and cleaned out what hope do the rest of us have

Seriously wtf do they want?!?!
 

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Scormus said:
I had an acquaintance who was a 9 that was married to a guy who was 6'4", a multi millionaire, good looking, just 3 years older than her.

She cleaned him out in a divorce a couple of years later. I don't know the circumstances.

But if that guy can get dumped and cleaned out what hope do the rest of us have
I'm sure guys here would say he was a beta provider type, and that's why she left him. But who can say? I think the real problem here is she had a big financial incentive to divorce him - women are rewarded with cash and prizes for divorcing.

I think these days you just have to get the idea of a relationship that lasts forever out of your head. That doesn't mean that you have to become a full on player or anything, just realize that all relationships have a shelf life and keep yourself mentally prepared for anything.

Yet, somehow some people do manage to stay married. I'm not sure what the secret is. I know you have to screen, but I've found that not to be foolproof. There are no guarantees. Maybe it takes a certain amount of luck. I really feel for guys who want to build a family, because it is a huge roll of the dice for them, considering it's such a worthy goal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zekko said:
I'm sure guys here would say he was a beta provider type, and that's why she left him. But who can say? I think the real problem here is she had a big financial incentive to divorce him - women are rewarded with cash and prizes for divorcing.

I think these days you just have to get the idea of a relationship that lasts forever out of your head. That doesn't mean that you have to become a full on player or anything, just realize that all relationships have a shelf life and keep yourself mentally prepared for anything.
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I agree with this. When I first came to the forum, I tried to find the "level of alpha" where I could attract a woman hopelessly and she would never leave of cheat me.

But that is impossible when alpha is a RELATIVE term. There is always something more "alpha". More "fun", more "new", more "novel", more "high value". This goes for girls and guys.

The only way to be safe for sure is a test of one's character. The horrible thing about this test is it requires long time investment and trust from you and if you are wrong, you stand to lose a lot, whether that naive girl looking to see whether her alpha BF will commit to her based on her own level of attractiveness or personality, or the naive boy looking to expect fidelity from perceived value or alphaness.

Its not to say building value or alphaness or looks or personality is bad for people but that there is no guarantee.
 

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Vujicic

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Google photos of Nick Vujicic + wife.
I just did.

Seriously, wtf?

Is it:

a) Zach and Nick's disabilities sort of give them and/or their girls "status". The girl gets constant affirmation and praise for being with them.

b) They want to be on TV

I am struggling to believe the sexual attraction is really there?

Here is this quote from the clip:

"I had dated other guys, and I had gone for the physical. I was tired of that."

That was "woman-ese", in English does it mean she got pumped and dumped repeatedly?

It must be a tough dynamic, if she goes, how does he replace or move on?

Though I have to give him tons of credit, "no arms, no legs, no worries!" - the way he says it is so alpha.
 

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Scormus said:
I had an acquaintance who was a 9 that was married to a guy who was 6'4", a multi millionaire, good looking, just 3 years older than her.

She cleaned him out in a divorce a couple of years later. I don't know the circumstances.

But if that guy can get dumped and cleaned out what hope do the rest of us have

Seriously wtf do they want?!?!
When a lot of money is involved, the alpha/beta **** goes out the window. It doesn't matter. They just want the $$$$. It's a big reason that I don't trust any women. I'm set to inherit a lot plus I have my own deal going on. I can't risk having some bish clean me out.
 
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