"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yup, back in the game.

Desdinova

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I'd forgotten how frustrating women can be with their wishy-washyness. Take for example, this girl I met on the net with a pretty high IL. She sent me a text asking what I was doing, so I told her. I went out to have some fun at my favorite hangout. She asked if she could come, and I told her I wouldn't stay long because I had to pick up my boy afterwards. Anyway, she seemed quite interested to see me, so I made arrangements to stay a bit longer.

After I told her to come down, she starts to get all fvcking wishy-washy, and eventually decided not to show up. She asked me to call her when I got home. I asked her what time she was heading to bed, and she told me around 1.

The most important thing is I didn't promise her anything. I figured it's time to punish her for messing up my arrangements for nothing, so I haven't called her. She's sent me two more texts so far.

The game is afoot.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good for you pal!

You've got som interesting but sometimes oh so frustrating times ahead!

I'm more and more inclined to view all this as a hobby, coz it's all a game for sure!
 

Julian

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Shoulda called her from the getgo bro...txting is what you do after you bang her...I keep the game on the voice level until after that point.
 

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Hehe. Don't call till tomorrow. Then just make up some excuses, "oh I was too tired I went straight to bed". Then ask for a date. If she flakes again, next.

Women.
 

Desdinova

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I've actually done quite well with texting. The girl's IL is pretty high. Also, I didn't really ask her out, she's the one who asked to join me.

She sent me another text early this morning and I responded exactly with what Sharkybear said. By not calling, I've got her thinking more about me. We shall see how things progress.

I'm more and more inclined to view all this as a hobby, coz it's all a game for sure!
That's why I avoid putting any emotion into it until it's established that we are a couple. This woman's pretty damn hot, but that's no reason to let up from the first moves in the game.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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