You've Outgrown Your Friends

[Ballie57]

It is amusing *and* disgusting that some guys think getting ***** is the end game of being "alpha." That's all they do and obsess with. They don't understand that it's more about making your own way in the world and living out your potential. Who's your arm is just a nice accessory. It is a fundamental shift from focusing on getting women to making your life the best it can be.

Yes, true - after being engaged to a Boer Hoer and being cheated on once too often during her "Summer Holiday" in December last year.

I have now taken a break from "decent" women and am looking forward to nobbing all the little slvths out there

 

[backbreaker]

It is amusing *and* disgusting that some guys think getting ***** is the end game of being "alpha." That's all they do and obsess with. They don't understand that it's more about making your own way in the world and living out your potential. Who's your arm is just a nice accessory. It is a fundamental shift from focusing on getting women to making your life the best it can be.

while this is all fine and good, and i'm the champion of self improvement, that's not why you came to this forum. it's not why you googled how do i get laid and clicked on sosuave.net. you did that because you actually DO wnt to have a nice chick on your arm.


We get so caught up on being alpha and **** like that, it's like we forget why we are here. I came here to get laid. This is a site about how to get laid, consistently, on your terms. How to manage women, things that women look for, things that women are turned on by. This isn't a wealth builders website, this isn't an anthony robbins forum, this is a forum about how to get laid.

When we are talking about specific instances with women i wills ometimes tell a guy hey, life isn't always about being laid. but this forum is very much about getting laid. If your posts are not women / getting laid related you really are in the wrong place


You are very much correct; getting laid is not the end all be all of life. But it is the end all / be all of sosuave lol.

 

[zekko]

It is amusing *and* disgusting that some guys think getting ***** is the end game of being "alpha." That's all they do and obsess with. They don't understand that it's more about making your own way in the world and living out your potential.

I don't think that making your own way and living out your potential is necessarily alpha. It's a good thing, but I don't see what it has to do with being alpha.

The only reason PUAs are interested in alpha males is because women want the guy who is the top dog, the top guy. That's all an alpha is, the number one guy. PUAs try to figure out what qualities this mythical alpha being possesses, and try to imitate them. As time has gone on, more and more mythical attributes have been ascribed to this so called "alpha" personality, to the point where it has become almost meaningless. IMO.

You are very much correct; getting laid is not the end all be all of life. But it is the end all / be all of sosuave lol.

True, guys come here to get laid. But there is a new phenomenon occurring lately. Guys come here and say "I want to get laid". And they are told "You don't need to get laid. Modern women are trash and not worth the time. You think you need to get laid, but you don't. Your focus is in the wrong direction. Don't focus on women, focus on yourself and being happy by yourself. If you can't be happy with yourself, you can't be happy at all. Stay away from modern women, they are hellish, vile, disgusting creatures."

Or something like that. Whether that's a good thing or not I don't know.

 

[backbreaker]

but see, i agree with that zekko. i truely believe that you can't be happy with a woman until you can be happy with yourself. otherwise you are looking for women to fill a void and that is how you put women on a pedistool

but i mean, the end game, for being hre, IS to get laid. you learn how to live without women so that you can keep the frame with a woman when you eventually DO get women, not as some sort of new long term life style choice is my point

 

[JaegerPilot217]

At what point did you realize you've outgrown your friends? When you finally realized that you need to find some other people to be around to grow as a person?

You're no longer the person you used to be in college. You have aspirations in life to make a name for yourself and do something meaningful.

But for some reason, all of your buddies who you thought would figure it out too, haven't. They're still stuck in this routine of going out to get hammered, hit on chicks, and wake up the next day miserable and barely operating at work.

And when you refuse to stay out till 2AM on a Tuesday night, you're labeled a 'pvssy'.

Sure, all those friends of yours are pulling hot women still, but is that really the point of our existence? I love laying a hot woman as much as the next guy, but to waste all of my time focused on this goal seems like something 'driven' men do not do.

Driven men don't have to hunt for women because they're focus in life is improving themselves, improving the world for others, and ultimately achieving their goals. Women are a second priority which naturally come when you begin to improve yourself.

Yet, your peers still have it the other way around.

Anyone care to share similar experiences?

Never understood why improving yourself is a masculine thing

 

[zekko]

but see, i agree with that zekko. i truely believe that you can't be happy with a woman until you can be happy with yourself. otherwise you are looking for women to fill a void and that is how you put women on a pedistool

but i mean, the end game, for being hre, IS to get laid. you learn how to live without women so that you can keep the frame with a woman when you eventually DO get women, not as some sort of new long term life style choice is my point

What I'm saying is that there is a small new contigent here that is saying forget getting laid. Kind of a "Men Going Their Own Way" type of subgroup.

 

[SteR]

What I'm saying is that there is a small new contigent here that is saying forget getting laid. Kind of a "Men Going Their Own Way" type of subgroup.

I can understand this though.

Like bb mentioned earlier, we all originally came to this forum because we needed help with women. For some guys that may be an all-consuming passion. Over time, if guys have paid attention to what's taught here, then obviously their success with women should improve.

I suppose you then get into a situation where you realise that women are slightly overrated and there's a whole lot more to life. It's the natural progression of things. So I don't find it odd that you have guys here who are discussing life outside of women because now they've completed that part of their journey and they're faced with the issue of 'what now?'.

 

[Ballie57]

The only reason PUAs are interested in alpha males is because women want the guy who is the top dog, the top guy. That's all an alpha is, the number one guy. PUAs try to figure out what qualities this mythical alpha being possesses, and try to imitate them. As time has gone on, more and more mythical attributes have been ascribed to this so called "alpha" personality, to the point where it has become almost meaningless. IMO.

My point exactly - just read the Book of Pook and pvssy will come knocking at your door.
Who gives a **** if she is 21 years younger than you?
My PUA of note Robbie is dying of cancer - at 60 years old and a full head of hair. He is and was, the PUA I modeled my life on.
His young bride, Mandy wanted to cash in on "her" inheritance before he was dead for fvck sake!
But he was wise enough to tell her to f**k off before she did.
The boys are now back in Town - so true after all these years.
Females come and go, like gilded butterflies in the spring, after all.
Only you and you mate of 37 years can go out for a breakfast run on your new motorbikes at 7 am

 

[zekko]

I can understand this though.

Like bb mentioned earlier, we all originally came to this forum because we needed help with women. For some guys that may be an all-consuming passion. Over time, if guys have paid attention to what's taught here, then obviously their success with women should improve.

Yeah, I can understand it. Not all the guys who embrace this idea have become super successful with women, however. Some are guys who are lacking some basic tools to be effective with women, or maybe they've given up. Some probably see the amount of hard work they would have to put in, and don't think the end result would be worth it. This is a new breed of poster I've only seen here in the last year or two.

A lot of people would deride these guys as chodes, and maybe they're right. But everybody's different. Some guys need the smallest little tweak and they become the biggest pimp on Earth. Some can work hard for years to only enjoy the most minimal success.

Everyday this Pook quote seems more and more relevant.

I always liked that quote of Pook's. "Sosuave will seem alien and distant and you will leave since you wont be able to understand it anymore". Of course he was still here when he wrote it, so he must have had good insight. But it's good that he could see beyond SoSuave and that there was more to life than DJ tips and tricks.