You've Got Her Number: How Often Should You Call?

[Frank2500]

Aall right...say you met a woman on a Wednesday, talked to her and got her number. You called her two days later and set a date for the weekend...perhaps a Sunday. The date seemed to go well. When next should you call her after that and how often? Should you disappear for a couple of days to let her chase you and seem mysterious? If so, can you stay without calling her for a week or would that be too much/exaggerating? What can you do to avoid being labeled "clingy" and "needy?"

 

[Elky]

The problem isn't being labled "clingy" and "needy", the problem is being "clingy" and "needy". There is nothing needy or clingy for setting up dates everytime you call, but skipping a whole week of calling would tell the girl that you aren't interested. You need to let her know you are.

 

[Frank2500]

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So my question then is how often should you call a woman? At least once or twice a week? Isn't that being clingy? Couldn't she think you don't have a life?

 

[lone star]

When

A couple of days after a date is nice. Call her to ask her for a date again. Then wait to see her and then wait a couple more days after that. This seems like a nice pace to me. Then see is she starts calling to back.

 

[Frank2500]

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I see. I don't mean to be bothersome, but how much is a couple of days after a date? Do you call her for example three days after each date or so, three days after the second date, and then wait to see if she starts calling back?

 

[Frank2500]

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I hear you, Shezz. Well, I used to call a woman like that quite frequently to show interest (I don't mean everday or every other day) at least every week-once or twice-and she still left. Things still didn't work out. Anyway, maybe she was the wrong woman for me. She was 7 years older than me-35; I'm 28.