'you're too good for me' sh!t test. (Rollo & other vets)

[DonJuan_DeRosco]

Just finished reading Rollo's brilliant article on the girls night out (GNO) sh!t test. I have always behaved as the article suggests but that particular test has always interested me as I've watched many get beaten by it over the years.

However, the purpose of this thread is another sh!t test I have experienced quite a few times and it's maybe the only one I'm not sure of.

'You're too good for me'.

Historically I have always just went with agree and amplify which may or may not have worked. I have noticed that when a girl utters this line, the relationship doesn't have long to go.

Any vets want to chime in on this one? Maybe this could be something Rollo could write on.

Anyway, discuss gents.

 

[georgie24]

the thing with american women and the whole ladies night out gig is , these girls arent worth the effort at the end of the day

do you want your GF involved in the whole ladies night out routine?

find a good. girl man unless this thread is about pump n dumps only

 

[betheman]

Ive had the "you're to good" for me line a couple of times, of course, it doesnt mean anything of the sort...or does it?
I dotn actually think it is a sh!t test, I think its more of a warning, when she says this, she is making a statement within a statement.
my take on it is, "Ive slept around, done some real dirty sh!t, been done by all kinds of douchbags and treated accordingly", also, it her transmitting that she thinks you are a "nice guy" = too good.

therefore I see it as a warning that although not revealing her past explicitly, she is doing so subtley and also letting you know, long term, she doesnt think she can go the distance...with you!

 

[georgie24]

Ive had the "you're to good" for me line a couple of times, of course, it doesnt mean anything of the sort...or does it?
I dotn actually think it is a sh!t test, I think its more of a warning, when she says this, she is making a statement within a statement.
my take on it is, "Ive slept around, done some real dirty sh!t, been done by all kinds of douchbags and treated accordingly", also, it her transmitting that she thinks you are a "nice guy" = too good.

therefore I see it as a warning that although not revealing her past explicitly, she is doing so subtley and also letting you know, long term, she doesnt think she can go the distance...with you!

bingo!

she probably doesnt know how to respond to "nice guys" so she will f*ck with the betas head instead, because that she knows how to do and respond to

 

[flashpoint]

when in doubt -> ignore

 

[yuppaz]

Could mean she's losing interest and trying to break things off while making sure your ego is protected

Could mean that she has low self esteem and doesn't see herself living up to your standards

Either way it's over, so what?

 

[Burroughs]

"you're too good for me.."

translation: "I'm going to be branch swinging away from u onto another cawk very soon and I don't want you to be mad and slash my tires or smack me around (even though I totally deserve it tehe!) so i'm going to say 'you're too good for me' cause i believe you're dumb enough to believe it and not be mad at me....so I'll win yay! tehe!"

 

[DonJuanabe]

Her: "You are too good for me."
You: "That's the same thing my other girlfriend said last night!"

 

[AW1983]

Her: You are too good for me.
You: Let's go eat.

ahahahahahaha

I agree with this potentially being a BPD crimson flag waving on the horizon. Later when her true colors come out she can retro-rationalize by telling herself that she warned you...so it's your fault for plunging in anyway. O' Hamster.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Nah, it has nothing to do with BPD; it's a major red flag warning that her interest is dropping big-time.

 

[pdx1138]

This all reminds me of a couple years back.

Instead of "your too good"

talking about our relationship "It's too perfect"

she was boning an alcoholic alpha from out of state every few months and made no secret of it. but truth be told I knew what I was getting into and learned much since then.

 

[Aristippus]

Samspade said: "You can always respond cryptically. "You don't know the real me."

**You left out an important element. First, you dress up either like "The Stepfather" or you wear bloody overalls while holding a "Leatherface" mask in your right hand. Then you give her a psychotic stare while holding either a meat cleaver or a butcher-knife and THEN respond cryptically, "You don't know the real me."

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

when in doubt -> ignore

^^^

What She Said: "You're too good for me."
Translation: blah blah blah blah

What she said: "I have a boyfriend."
Translation: blah blah blah blah

What she said: "I'm out with my friends."
Translation: blah blah blah blah

What she said: "I'm waiting for somebody"
Translation: blah blah blah blah


Whatever she says, just say, "cool," and keep on going.

Ignore her surface structure. It's irrelevant. She's expecting you to bite like everybody else. Don't. After it's clear you aren't going to bite, she'll give up and forget whatever it is she just said.

Girls want a guy who'll take control. If you buy into her frame, buy into the surface structure of her communication, you aren't taking control. You are entering into her world, and trying to get her approval. You are following her like every other chump out there.

Girls' frames aren't that strong. But then again, neither are most guys'.

Watch her body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, diameter of her pupils, and her receptiveness to slight kino. Maybe pay attention to her actual words once in a while for reference, but don't put too much weight in them.

Ignore everything else, like FLASHPOINT said.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DeRosco,
I think our friend Yuppaz has hit the nail on the Head....This was illustrated for me soo many years ago,when I was quite Young.....My Old Dad a Tough old Scot like yourself,had lost Mum,sad business he was quite desolate,it wasn't just the Company,there was a complete division of labour in that house,he didn't even know how to pay a Bill,where to shop,how to even operate the Washing machine.....
Dad did what many Guys do,he went to drink,for a while things were a mess,but Dancing saved him....He had always maintained an interest since Youth and befriended a woman half his age,she was a very nice Girl,doing it hard herself with two young Kids,Dad could whirl her round the Dance Floor and for an hour or two couple of times a week she was a Princess...Cut a long story short,he wanted more than,quite sensibly she was prepared to offer....
About two one Morning,he rang me,silly old Buffer was drunk,in his car and couldn't work out how to get out of the Car Park,my Wife and I found him,took him and his Car home....On the way home,this grizzled old Veteran of gruelling Arctic and Mediterranean Convoys just sadly said...."She reckons I'm too good for her"!

 

[Jitterbug]

Silently agree with her self judgement and prepare your exit strategy.

 

[tryst type]

^^^

What She Said: "You're too good for me."
Translation: blah blah blah blah

What she said: "I have a boyfriend."
Translation: blah blah blah blah

What she said: "I'm out with my friends."
Translation: blah blah blah blah

What she said: "I'm waiting for somebody"
Translation: blah blah blah blah


Whatever she says, just say, "cool," and keep on going.

Ignore her surface structure. It's irrelevant. She's expecting you to bite like everybody else. Don't. After it's clear you aren't going to bite, she'll give up and forget whatever it is she just said.

Girls want a guy who'll take control. If you buy into her frame, buy into the surface structure of her communication, you aren't taking control. You are entering into her world, and trying to get her approval. You are following her like every other chump out there.

Girls' frames aren't that strong. But then again, neither are most guys'.

Watch her body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, diameter of her pupils, and her receptiveness to slight kino. Maybe pay attention to her actual words once in a while for reference, but don't put too much weight in them.

Ignore everything else, like FLASHPOINT said.

^ This

Never ever give in or react to what a girl says unless it's something you agree with. Best way is to reframe everything into what you want it to mean.

Her: "you're too good for me"
You: did you just ask to make out with me in the bathroom?

 

[vatoloco]

"It's not you. It's me."

 

[Burroughs]

:crackup: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8TnhNxKNlU :crackup: :crackup:

 

[bluenorther]

I was sort of expecting to hear the same line "You're too good for me" or a variation, after I slept with an old client of mine. I've lusted after her for years. Her live-in boyfriend died last year, so she's available.
We had an enjoyable night, and I left in the morning.
She hasn't returned my calls since. It's been three weeks.
I found out, she smokes meth. Maybe that's why. Her friends are all meth-heads, too.
I'm not judging her, I just wanted to taste her puzzie one time.
Good thing, she hasn't been my client for a while. I can't afford to lose any.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Womaneze: "You're too good for me."

Translation: "I realize that my SMV is at least 1-2 degrees below your own and, since I'm at my wits end that you'll recognize this imbalance, I'm forced to express this worry overtly to you (so there'll be no margin for miscommunicating it covertly) to vent my anxiety while becoming passively possessive of you."