You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well, I did pull her in when we said good bye and tongued her for a good 5 seconds...so I don't think..."I was too nice".donjuanapprentice01 said:I ALWYS get that, lol
"wow, why don't you have a girlfriend?"
Next time I get told that I will say "hmmm... good question. Tell you what, why don't you be my gf?" see the response you will get.
The scary thing is, one can be coming across as too nice without realizing it. However, I do not think I did at all. I told her she looked nice, but that is the only compliment I gave her.mattb717 said:I got the same thing a couple fo weeks ago when a female friend of mine was *****ing about what pansy her boyfriend is. I matter-of-factly pointed out he is probably the type to throw out entirely too many compliments to her and it makes her uncomfortable. I also said he probably thinks telling her she is hot all the time makes her feel good when it probably makes her feel more liuke a slut. Instead he should tell her she is beautiful. Her and another female friend stared wide-eyed at me and simply said "How do you not a have a girlfriend?"