Lotus Effect
Master Don Juan
Hey guys!
It has been a while since I don't post here, and the main reason is because I slacked. The holidays came over, and going to the beach with no sole purpose but to party kind of killed the flame I had inside of me. I'm still not sure if I just got of my day to day routine and so the flame weared of, or if going into destinationless trips really made me get over my ex. The thing is, that burning flame I had inside me is gone.
I still miss my ex of course, but that pain inside is gone. And without the pain, you lack the drive to strive. That is why I haven't posted, and that is why I've been slacking with myself. Once again, 'Swingers' was right. 'You'll miss the pain'
Thankfully, while I had this pain so deeply inside of me, I've quited my dead end job and I just got employeed in the world's largest beer brewery, I've decided to go deep into seduction, and now I'm able to pull any girl, anywhere, I'm spinning 3 plates this week, who are not the same plates from last week, I had a 3some which is great, I started hitting the gym and I'm overall way more sociable than before! So to anyone reading who is still hurting, use this pain as fuel to do something great, because as every fuel, this one will also end.
But this post is not about me. Nor about the pain, the fuel, the ex or any of that sh*t. This post is about Bullsh*t. Bullsh*t many of us take from women in general. This post is about an abundance state of mind, and how this should reflect on your personallity, and most specially, how this should reflect on how you take women BS.
To put things into perspective, I'll give you my experiences. And as I always, I'll start with the subject which brought me here, my ex.
When she asked for a break, 2 days after, she went travelling with her best friend (which is now her Boyfriend) and posted lots and lots of happy pictures of them skying. I went mad, that was extremelly disrespectfull. I asked what the f*ck was that and then I did what was right when she returned, which was calling her a hore and properly dumping her. Ok? No. Sadly she sent me a letter telling she was sorry, she was crying, she missed me, she loved me wada wada. We arranged a meeting where she told me that she didn't loved me anymore, I got crazy, than she said she loved me and only said that to help me move on, and then she told me that she was feeling sorry for myself more than loving me and then she took me back (Tell me about mixed signals huh?!)
Anyway, fastforward 3 weeks, she is cold, distant, and the sex is awkward. What do I found out? She is banging another dude, and it was not the best friend, another dude. There is nothing more disrespectfull than that. She denies it, but there were text evidence. So again and this time a million times worse, I call her a hore and properly dump her. Which was the right thing to be done. Right...?
Too bad this time, I couldn't handle being w/o her, and then I AFCed all out. I bought the "Relationship Rewind" program in the web, and 3 weeks later I reengaged talking to her. Which was the most stupid thing ever. Everything that I told her, everything that I called her, every truth she heard about her, and that would resonate for a lifetime in her mind ended there. I gave her the validation she needed to move on. And so she did.
The next 3 months, I tried everything to get in touch with her. But she was extremelly disrespectfull, flakey, liar, and kept playing several games with me. Things that SHOULD NEVER BE ACCEPTED. But love blinded, I accepted them all. Allways with the blind hope that she would take me back.
It all ended when we agreed to meet on a coffee date, and she flaked but reescheduled it to the weekend. 2 weeks went by and not even a word from the b*tch. And so, instead of calling her out on her bad behaviour and leaving (Not that at this point it would matter) I did my most AFC move, and sent her a letter, in the same fashion of the one she sent me. The difference is that when is over for a girl, it is over, and any of this pathetic BS that works for them, do not work for us. In fact, it only solidified the loser image she had already constructed of me.
The bottomline of this is. She was extremelly disrespectfull since the day she dumped me, and I've accepted it. Which drove me mad for months to come. Eight months, to be more specific, when I should have stood straight and told her, 'F*ck you, I don't need this sh*t' and left...
But I couldn't, and I accepted it all because she was the only one. Not Walt Disney's 'Only One'. She was indeed, the only girl I had. The only card I had in my hand. That is why I was blind. 'Cause I was only holding onto one card! While she was a-ok 'cause she was already being pumped by the next and the one after him! (Read: Abundance)
Now, fastforwarding to recent days, in another story. There is this girl who I hooked up in the past who showed up again in my life all of sudden. She is stunning, my ex was extremelly jealous of her, and so, the minute I saw her I've told myself 'I've got to bang this chick'.
I needed to get her so my ex would see it and it would kill her (Lame, I know) But, sadly, the minute I thought this, I gave her too much credit in my own mind, which, unfourtunatelly, pedestalized her.
Needless to say that I did not get her. She flaked me, twice, with lame excuses. The first time I told her it was ok, and the second, I haven't replyed. All of this with the hidden purpose of leaving a door open so I can try it again some other day. (Sad...)
But, the objective of this post, is not to talk about my fail stories. The objective here is to talk about abundance. The community, in general, preach for you not to call out a girl on bad behaviour, because that is Beta. The best thing is to act aloof or any other sh*t like that. Just walk away.
I don't know how does this work out for you Northern Folks up there. But for me this is nothing but CRAP advice.
In both the situations above, with the ex, and with the flakey chick, if I had a abundance mentallity, and had no fear of loosing them, the correct thing to do was to call them out on extremelly bad behaviour and walk as a man. Not just walk and leave them to wonder (Or even stupid, call out, and them take it back as I did)
Of course, willingness to walk away is something that is preached in here up and about, and I endorse it. Hamsters do run better on silence. But for me, when there is bad behaviour included, it does not work out this way.
The only man who don't call out on bad behaviour is the man who is lacking options. Is the man who is afraid to lose. Is the man who is walking away to see the girl chase him.
Willingness to walk away means WALKING THE F*CK AWAY. Never to be seen or heard. So yes, you must call her out on any behaviour you don't fashion. If she likes it or not, it is HER problem not yours. If she chases you afterwards or not, again is HER problem. Not yours.
Aloofness is not an Act. Being Alpha is not an act. You don't take sh*t and that is it. If you think you are being Alpha 'cause you are walking away to get an reaction think again. If you are getting sh*t, than something is already wrong, and most likely, your princess is indeed in another castle.
It has been a while since I don't post here, and the main reason is because I slacked. The holidays came over, and going to the beach with no sole purpose but to party kind of killed the flame I had inside of me. I'm still not sure if I just got of my day to day routine and so the flame weared of, or if going into destinationless trips really made me get over my ex. The thing is, that burning flame I had inside me is gone.
I still miss my ex of course, but that pain inside is gone. And without the pain, you lack the drive to strive. That is why I haven't posted, and that is why I've been slacking with myself. Once again, 'Swingers' was right. 'You'll miss the pain'
Thankfully, while I had this pain so deeply inside of me, I've quited my dead end job and I just got employeed in the world's largest beer brewery, I've decided to go deep into seduction, and now I'm able to pull any girl, anywhere, I'm spinning 3 plates this week, who are not the same plates from last week, I had a 3some which is great, I started hitting the gym and I'm overall way more sociable than before! So to anyone reading who is still hurting, use this pain as fuel to do something great, because as every fuel, this one will also end.
But this post is not about me. Nor about the pain, the fuel, the ex or any of that sh*t. This post is about Bullsh*t. Bullsh*t many of us take from women in general. This post is about an abundance state of mind, and how this should reflect on your personallity, and most specially, how this should reflect on how you take women BS.
To put things into perspective, I'll give you my experiences. And as I always, I'll start with the subject which brought me here, my ex.
When she asked for a break, 2 days after, she went travelling with her best friend (which is now her Boyfriend) and posted lots and lots of happy pictures of them skying. I went mad, that was extremelly disrespectfull. I asked what the f*ck was that and then I did what was right when she returned, which was calling her a hore and properly dumping her. Ok? No. Sadly she sent me a letter telling she was sorry, she was crying, she missed me, she loved me wada wada. We arranged a meeting where she told me that she didn't loved me anymore, I got crazy, than she said she loved me and only said that to help me move on, and then she told me that she was feeling sorry for myself more than loving me and then she took me back (Tell me about mixed signals huh?!)
Anyway, fastforward 3 weeks, she is cold, distant, and the sex is awkward. What do I found out? She is banging another dude, and it was not the best friend, another dude. There is nothing more disrespectfull than that. She denies it, but there were text evidence. So again and this time a million times worse, I call her a hore and properly dump her. Which was the right thing to be done. Right...?
Too bad this time, I couldn't handle being w/o her, and then I AFCed all out. I bought the "Relationship Rewind" program in the web, and 3 weeks later I reengaged talking to her. Which was the most stupid thing ever. Everything that I told her, everything that I called her, every truth she heard about her, and that would resonate for a lifetime in her mind ended there. I gave her the validation she needed to move on. And so she did.
The next 3 months, I tried everything to get in touch with her. But she was extremelly disrespectfull, flakey, liar, and kept playing several games with me. Things that SHOULD NEVER BE ACCEPTED. But love blinded, I accepted them all. Allways with the blind hope that she would take me back.
It all ended when we agreed to meet on a coffee date, and she flaked but reescheduled it to the weekend. 2 weeks went by and not even a word from the b*tch. And so, instead of calling her out on her bad behaviour and leaving (Not that at this point it would matter) I did my most AFC move, and sent her a letter, in the same fashion of the one she sent me. The difference is that when is over for a girl, it is over, and any of this pathetic BS that works for them, do not work for us. In fact, it only solidified the loser image she had already constructed of me.
The bottomline of this is. She was extremelly disrespectfull since the day she dumped me, and I've accepted it. Which drove me mad for months to come. Eight months, to be more specific, when I should have stood straight and told her, 'F*ck you, I don't need this sh*t' and left...
But I couldn't, and I accepted it all because she was the only one. Not Walt Disney's 'Only One'. She was indeed, the only girl I had. The only card I had in my hand. That is why I was blind. 'Cause I was only holding onto one card! While she was a-ok 'cause she was already being pumped by the next and the one after him! (Read: Abundance)
Now, fastforwarding to recent days, in another story. There is this girl who I hooked up in the past who showed up again in my life all of sudden. She is stunning, my ex was extremelly jealous of her, and so, the minute I saw her I've told myself 'I've got to bang this chick'.
I needed to get her so my ex would see it and it would kill her (Lame, I know) But, sadly, the minute I thought this, I gave her too much credit in my own mind, which, unfourtunatelly, pedestalized her.
Needless to say that I did not get her. She flaked me, twice, with lame excuses. The first time I told her it was ok, and the second, I haven't replyed. All of this with the hidden purpose of leaving a door open so I can try it again some other day. (Sad...)
But, the objective of this post, is not to talk about my fail stories. The objective here is to talk about abundance. The community, in general, preach for you not to call out a girl on bad behaviour, because that is Beta. The best thing is to act aloof or any other sh*t like that. Just walk away.
I don't know how does this work out for you Northern Folks up there. But for me this is nothing but CRAP advice.
In both the situations above, with the ex, and with the flakey chick, if I had a abundance mentallity, and had no fear of loosing them, the correct thing to do was to call them out on extremelly bad behaviour and walk as a man. Not just walk and leave them to wonder (Or even stupid, call out, and them take it back as I did)
Of course, willingness to walk away is something that is preached in here up and about, and I endorse it. Hamsters do run better on silence. But for me, when there is bad behaviour included, it does not work out this way.
The only man who don't call out on bad behaviour is the man who is lacking options. Is the man who is afraid to lose. Is the man who is walking away to see the girl chase him.
Willingness to walk away means WALKING THE F*CK AWAY. Never to be seen or heard. So yes, you must call her out on any behaviour you don't fashion. If she likes it or not, it is HER problem not yours. If she chases you afterwards or not, again is HER problem. Not yours.
Aloofness is not an Act. Being Alpha is not an act. You don't take sh*t and that is it. If you think you are being Alpha 'cause you are walking away to get an reaction think again. If you are getting sh*t, than something is already wrong, and most likely, your princess is indeed in another castle.
