"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You're only after one thing

imservin22

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I'm at a crossroads with a girl I've been seeing. She's a friend of my buddy's g/f. I've taken her out a few times nothing crazy just drinks each time we've made out and gotten physical and she always acts like she knows what's up often initiating. Haven't gotten the lay though. I've tried to set up just going to her place a couple times and she goes into this "you're only after one thing"..."you're just trying to come over" blah blah blah. To the point that I was actually confused. We're supposed to go for some drinks and darts this week. I'm trying to figure out how to escalate this or else I may just walk. I think her IL is high, but not sure how much more time I want to invest in this. Looking to see how I should approach this meeting.

And what advice does anyone have to respond to the phrase "you're only after one thing"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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alphaace

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Don't let her pretend she doesn't want it too, she does. If she is initiating she wan'ts the same thing. Her saying "you're only after one thing" is her anti-slvt defence. Two strike rule, set up another event and keep doing what you're doing. If she denies you again, just walk. If her IL is high after you walk she will be texting/calling you first, then you can just do whatever you choose to do with that.
 

Down Low

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I generally respond with negs. "What, are you stupid? We are animals. We're born and we die. In between, our bodies perform respiration, digestion, excretion, and reproduction. My pee pee goes out and yours goes in for this reason. We have hormones that get us excited at the sight of the opposite sex. Didn't they teach you this in, like, 8th grade?"
 
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