"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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tactic

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I think i would get one if i knew the pros about it.. anyone have any experience in it? or anyone thinking about finding a wingman? what does a wingman do for you if you were to approach a woman?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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CableLight

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I don't know if this is a true "wingman" thing, but a few buddies and I made this agreement:

If one of us has the chance of hooking up with a hot girl who has an undesirable friend, one of the rest of us is obligated to step in and "take one for the team" by occupying the beast-friend in some way.

For instance - About a month ago, I was at a party and this situation came up. I lost the Rock-Paper-Scissors battle to see who has to distract the other girl (this b!tch was heinous), and it totally sucked. My friend didnt even hook up with the hot girl, so I spent a solid hour and a half talking with her friend who wouldn't stop going on and on about her views on politics. Barf.

My buddy bought me a six-pack the next day for the effort, so I guess it wasnt a total loss. The moral of this story is that - if you have someone there who's got your back and helps ya out - pay them back :p
 

Maeisgood

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I don't understand the concept of wingmen. My friends end up being **** blockers, and if I don't even like the girl, I just sit back and watch the folly of their competing.
 

Patrick124

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thats called "Jumping on the Gernade[sp?]" lol
as for wingmen..dunno, it boosts my confidence, I cna't approach groups alone. But then most of my would-be-wingmen are ****blockers when the time comes to get ass.
i'mt rying out a new guy tomorrow as my wingman, mall approaches. hopefully he doesnt' ****up[ahem: but he did tell a girl that i was pissed because he accidentally erased her # from my cell, and now shes beign a *****.]
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My experience with wingmen is good. My buddy and I vibe off each other and get a good atmosphere and conversation and convert going. I generally just feel more confident with my buddy anyway. We also have the "take one for the team" rule going on, which is truly friendship there haha. Generally I just have a good time hitting on girls and hooking up with a guy who is good enough to get girls and get 'er done. I get best of both worlds, hangin out with the guys and searching for girls.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
I think i would get one if i knew the pros about it.. anyone have any experience in it? or anyone thinking about finding a wingman? what does a wingman do for you if you were to approach a woman?
I got a wingman and a wingwoman at a party the other day and both of them weren't good for me.

The girl was drunk and when we entered a four set she immediately started talking about how pretty the girl was and some other sh!t...I busted on her like she was a lesbian and then her phone went off and I was left to entertain the masses myself.

The guy wing went up to try and work the set without me :confused: He said that he had a friend downstairs that looks just like him that they should meet or something, lol. Apparently that didn't work either because they didn't come downstairs.

IMO, a wingman is just as the commerical for beers implies. A guy who runs interference while the guy can work his game free of distractions
 
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