"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Solomon

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Ok here is the deal, last night this chick that I met out on the field two weeks ago(blond, college chick, ****ing curvy) contacted me at midnight, asking what I was doing, I was at work so I couldn't really talk to her

But I was surprised, why? because I hadn't talk to her since the club. I tried calling her twice (nope) nothing. So I deleted her number. When I called her later on she said she was going through her phone found my number and just wanted to see whats up yadda yadda.

Now I get a text message(yes right now, now) and she is going to the same club as before, coincidentally I am going as well (I ain't stalking ****, this has been planned a week ago!!!)

Any advice on escalation? would be greatly appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A call and then a text? sounds like you've played things well so far and after you called twice and left it at that - it's workin for you

I think you know how to handle things - don't give her too much attention too quick - SOCIAL PROOF - use it!!
 

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Rounder said:
A call and then a text? sounds like you've played things well so far and after you called twice and left it at that - it's workin for you

I think you know how to handle things - don't give her too much attention too quick - SOCIAL PROOF - use it!!


haha

Yeah I got it, I think I'm gonna do a little push n pull here and there.

It's just usually honestly, chicks don't contact you two weeks later, hence its a first. I know if i got more time, with her, It's a wrap

good shht rounder

you go out this weekend at all? I wish i could go out on saturdays, but with work thats my first prioirty, although I do have the 20th off, its gonna be wild
:D
 

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Wassup mayne, it's your boy from majors haha. This girl sounds interested dude, make sure she sees you hanging out and talking to other girls a.k.a. social proof (what you're all about). Lemme know what happens.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Solomon

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some insight on the college chick

Lto Ucas said:
Wassup mayne, it's your boy from majors haha. This girl sounds interested dude, make sure she sees you hanging out and talking to other girls a.k.a. social proof (what you're all about). Lemme know what happens.

Whats poppin Luke!!

Yeah yeah yeah yeah lol

I did that, I saw her last night as soon as I walked in, I ran into one of my boys luckily and had him back me up. I was in the set for two minutes or something got a drink. We played it cool, a chump woulda ran back there ASAP,but my boy wanted to open up sets so we scrounged around

Some highlights with that situation

I was at the bar with this professional (you know 25 plus chick, dressed older, phat ass) She saw me number close her, but I didn't give a ****.

The whole night, I would be out of her way,not on purpose but the venue was that packed that it's not like I ran into her again and again. Plus her and her girl were in one spot

By the end of the night she cracked and was begging me to come dance with her, lol, so I did, I escalated the situation a bit and now we have date set for later this week.

Will see were it goes.....
 

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2 AND HALF YEAR UPDATE(im going through some old threads)

LOL

SO I did end up banging her on our "date"(she just came over to watch "40 year old virgin" she was blowing me within 30 minutes) it was alright, nothing to brag about(Hate condoms). I ran into her about a year later and tried to kiss her she moved her headl. Last time I saw her she put on some weight and is now a fattie

shame
 
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