your thoughts on this sh!t test situation

[ne0phyte]

recently, i was at a club with some friends and one of my friends brought her sister with her. I thought her sister was cute, so i approached and did some fluff talk first. got her laughing etc blah blah blah.

her sister sees us and comes over to talk to us. she asks us what we're talking about and i say (in front of her sister as well) "oh, i think your sister's cute. what would you do if we dated?" she gets this funny look on her face and says "ill stab you until you die". her sister laughs and i'm just looking at them both.
her sister says "i don't think you can handle me". at this point, i feel like i've been talking to her enough. so i shrugged my shoulders, and said "you're probably right" with a smirk. i then walked away to go dance with another girl.

now i was pretty buzzed already and had the whole agree & amplify thing on auto-pilot, but now that I'm sober, i think a better answer woulda been "I dont' think you can handle ME". either way, i woulda said it in a ****y and funny way, so does it really matter? i walked away to see if she would approached to talk to me later (which she didn't).

 

[crazyboy]

If there was actually attraction you should just took her to the dance floor. When she made that comment and show her there you can handle her. If there was no attraction she would putting you down nicely. Without being so rude about it.

 

[thevilittletroll]

girls will s.hit test you when there is some intrigue about you. does not necesarrily have to be attracted, but at least some interest. sounds like you failed the test. if she's not interested she wont even care about giving you a test. a woman does not want a man that will melt when she tuns up the heat a little bit or run away at the first sign of being difficult. c.ocky funny lines will work some of the time, but i recommend to just ignore the comment and change the subject. 2 mins from now she wont even remember the s.hit test she was trying to give to you.

 

[Stagger Lee]

I think saying, " i think your sister's cute. what would you do if we dated?" was a wrong thing to say. It all depends on context and how you say something, but it showed too much interest and validation. Saying something a little more confident than "you're probably right" might have been better, but you ejecting with what you said and dancing with another probably was your best move. Let them chew on it awhile. It doesn't sound like you had much room to stay around and escalate anything.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I think saying, " i think your sister's cute. what would you do if we dated?" was a wrong thing to say. It all depends on context and how you say something, but it showed too much interest and validation. Saying something a little more confident than "you're probably right" might have been better, but you ejecting with what you said and dancing with another probably was your best move. Let them chew on it awhile. It doesn't sound like you had much room to stay around and escalate anything.

Exactly! Why would you say "what would you do if we dated," when you had no idea if the girl was even on your nutz or not? Even so that's just a bad thing to say unless she absolutely knew you were being sarcastic.

It would've been better when her sister walked up to you two, if you would have said something like "damn take your sister away, she's all over me and I barely know her" (while smiling)...or something in that type of context.

Lastly, girls who are attracted to a guy do not make him jump through hoops to see them. So if you got her number, call her up and ask her out. You will know if she's into you based on her answer.





PIMP

 

[st_99]

I'm thinking walking away is a little counter productive. It doesn't really matter what you say within reason as
long as you're not acting like you'll die if she rejects you.

 

[Casslehoff]

She's looking for a real man. Somebody that CAN HANDLE HER!
A leader type, something that you're apparently not!

And who gives a flying **** what her sister says. Its not like the girl is 8 yrs old or something. She makes her own decisions on who she dates.
but you already sold your balls when you told her sister how cute she was....

 

[ne0phyte]

hmm i thought being direct was a good thing. does saying she's cute show too much interest these days? i was just reading some approach journals here and some people open with "hey i think you're cute, i had to come up and tell you that".

anyway, i guess the better answer woulda been "i don't think you can handle me". when i said "you're probably right", it wasn't like i was crushed and walked away like i was going to die. it was more of a "i don't care, i'm going to talk to other girls now".

but now i know. thanks guys