Your texting niche

[BlueAlpha1]

The last 7-8 girls I have number closed have resulted in some variation of a flake, going back to the summer. This is a slump to end all slumps. I have tried hyper-aggressive game, i.e. telling the girl what to wear on the date (after having time to make a connection like a girl I met on an airplane and spent 3 hours with), to c&f game for less investment (1/2 hour of funny day game with the girl who upgraded my brother's phone), to flaking first but trying to reschedule when I knew the flake was coming, and none of it has resulted in a bang.

The girl I spent New Years Eve with hit me up last night. After 2 hours in the bar of laughing, travel stories, and kino in the form of hair touching and walking her by the hand to the fireworks, she ultimately allowed a light kiss at midnight but put on the breaks and went full stop when I attempted to makeout. Granted she was talking about a bf during parts of the night and had a picture of him on her phone, but they live about 10,000 miles apart and she went on about how it's "not going to work."

It was admittedly a bit awkward after that as this is literally the first time I've EVER been rejected for a kiss in 26 years, but she didn't get a reaction. I left and met up with some other people back at the hostel and didn't say another word to her.

So here is the text exchange now:

HB: Hey How are you? Safe back home in your city?
Me: Who is this? (few hours later)
HB: The girl that gave you your new year kiss Where did you go afterwards? We all went to a bar again. (next day)

Yes I knew who it was, and yes I'm being a jerk. I get the feeling she's desperately fishing for beta blood, but it's worth trying to spit the right game as she's going to be in my town for 2 days next week before going back to Germany. I'm thinking of calling the ***** by another girl's name, since she mentioned a kiss but didn't clarify who she was.

Thoughts?

 

[EyeBRollin]

No need to be a jerk. Just make a date and escalate. You won't become a beta unless you allow yourself to.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I've used that "who is this" sh!t before. Unless the girl has a high IL (which it seems she might, she just had her guard up because she's unsure of the boyfriend situation), they'll usually just stop texting. Then proceed to show their friends and gasp something along the lines of "ohmygod, can you believe he didn't KNOW who I was?!"

I try to keep it to the point in texting. Just as in the real world.

Me: oh hi, some others from the hostel hit me up. that group was kinda weird anyway

Yeah, I was a little surprised I got a reply. It was a ****ish comment since she saw me store her # in my phone. But the whole acting like it was I who just walked off in the middle of an escalating romantic night is very fake. She knows whats up and I think she's just fishing, but fortunately I havent chased at all. Don't feel ive made any mistakes

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Unfortunately women will see through this. She may just be playing you for her own ego. See how it goes anyways.

We've been back and forth a little bit today but I'm not giving her much. Any validation she gleans she'd have to be reaching...