jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Many people never entered the dating market. They met young, stayed together, and never explored other options. As a result, they’re often more loyal, less jaded, and more content, not because they lacked choices, but because they found value in what they had and chose to commit, looking at the "dating marketplace" like a worse scenario than their.
Take Fred and Jemma, a small town and circle couple, no dating games, just mutual respect and a shared life, both aware about this "dating" scenario. They've been happy for 30 years.
But.. once you enter the dating market, it’s hard to leave without scars.
Comparison is the thief of joy... You'll chase novelty, and it can erode your ability to feel satisfied. This is even more intense for women immersed in modern social media and dating culture.
For example I know two women, both attractive. One stayed grounded and committed, the other explored everything, and now struggles to find her place.
It may seem exaggerated, but even a change of job and its environment can upset your prospects, and for this reason you will see many more long-term couples with businesses run together, or at least jobs in which both have no emotional/sexual outlet with others.
Like travel or addiction, once you’ve had “more,” it’s hard to accept “enough.”
Better sex, more money, new experiences, these memories compete with your present.
We stop appreciating respect, loyalty, and genuine care, focusing instead on what’s missing.
But long-term happiness comes from sacrifice and commitment.
The more people chase extremes, the harder it becomes to settle into something real.
Perspectives change over time.
The happiest people are those who adjust their expectations and grow with their reality, not against it.
Can we truly be content after experiencing so much, or does too much choice ruin our ability to commit?
Take Fred and Jemma, a small town and circle couple, no dating games, just mutual respect and a shared life, both aware about this "dating" scenario. They've been happy for 30 years.
But.. once you enter the dating market, it’s hard to leave without scars.
Comparison is the thief of joy... You'll chase novelty, and it can erode your ability to feel satisfied. This is even more intense for women immersed in modern social media and dating culture.
For example I know two women, both attractive. One stayed grounded and committed, the other explored everything, and now struggles to find her place.
It may seem exaggerated, but even a change of job and its environment can upset your prospects, and for this reason you will see many more long-term couples with businesses run together, or at least jobs in which both have no emotional/sexual outlet with others.
Like travel or addiction, once you’ve had “more,” it’s hard to accept “enough.”
Better sex, more money, new experiences, these memories compete with your present.
We stop appreciating respect, loyalty, and genuine care, focusing instead on what’s missing.
But long-term happiness comes from sacrifice and commitment.
The more people chase extremes, the harder it becomes to settle into something real.
Perspectives change over time.
The happiest people are those who adjust their expectations and grow with their reality, not against it.
Can we truly be content after experiencing so much, or does too much choice ruin our ability to commit?
and this was why society use to shun couples that got a divorce. Relationships for the average couple is hard. Society was the enforcer of people sticking together until they reached old age - when the woman was content and happy for her marriage (couldn't/wouldn't monkey branch); and the man had so many experiences with his wife (including at her "prime"), that he didn't care she wasn't as attractive as she was younger.
