"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Your personal iron rules

Reykhel

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Could anybody shows those iron rules that OP talks about?

I know the rational male but didnt really red it deeply.

Personally I dont have "iron rules" more a certain attitude toward a situation while still keeping myself flexible.
Ok, listen, when I talk about my Iron rule
Are you talking about rules for life or rules for dating?

I have two main life rules:
  • Commit to no cause but my own.
  • Always act rationally in an irrational world
All it takes to win the game is to act rationally in an irrational market and not allow other people to BS you into doing sh!t that doesn't benefit you. If you diversify your investments (time, energy, money) and stop drinking the blue pill Kool-Aide, you will do ok.

Everything else falls in line with those rules. This doesn't mean being a self-centered pr!ck 24/7 or being a cold hearted a*shole. All it means is my values, my goals and my well-being always come first. If you can't take care of yourself.. you can't take care of anyone else. Since people primarily care about what you can do for them.. the more you can do for YOURSELF the more you can do for others. Therefore, if doing right by someone else means screwing myself.. then I will not do right by that person.
I think I was initially reflecting on my own life and then it made me think of Rollo's iron rules. So the thread can be whatever people
wish to add, be it life or dating.

Strong response. Nice to see values and self esteem highlighted.

Completely agree "if you can't take care of yourself......you can't take care of anyone else". It reminds me of when you're taking a
flight and they tell you in case of emergency or loss of cabin pressure, always put on your oxygen mask first before helping anyone else with theirs.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My number one rule is I will not be limited by some ideological rule, which is to say the whole of life is a practical learning process.
 

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The iron rule that might be beneficial to a lot of people I know, is this:
Everyday, look honestly in the mirror and reflect on your actions.
As long as you are honest and keep doing it, you will go far.
 
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