"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Your personal BF-losing experience

Phrost

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 17, 2006
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
I've read the guide to cutting and some other threads from the search, but even though I'm consuming less calories than what I'm using, my body seems to find energy beyond my fat storage...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Warboss Alex

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 7, 2005
Messages
4,113
Reaction score
29
fat loss isn't immediate, be consistent for 3-4 weeks and then gauge progress.
 

donjuanjovi

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 21, 2006
Messages
480
Reaction score
1
Location
Toronto
The larger you are the longer it will take to see results. Keep at it and you'll be scrubbing clothes on you stomach in no time!
 

A-Unit

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 6, 2004
Messages
1,515
Reaction score
43
Re:

My personal understanding of fat-loss...

[] Don't view it as a diet, view it as a way of life. Eat good, well-rounded, balcned, meals Sunday Through Thursday, or Monday through Friday. Don't be hard on yourself if you lose it a little bit on Saturday and Sunday, or Friday. For instance, I make salads each day that contain things I like, such as Olives, Chicken, Jalapenos, Cheese, Bean Sprouts, Lettuce, Tomatoes, Almonds, Chick Peas, etc. I also eat Turkey patties thrown on the Foreman grill; 3 patties = 60 g of protein and about 10 g of fat. I might throw a lil soy sauce of them, and eat them with broccoli.

[] Work your way away from excessive sugar. Instead of drinking soda, I drink Poland Spring Sparkling Water. If you taste that versus soda, you can taste how overwhelming sugar is. It kills your taste buds and makes you almost resilient to GOOD food. Salad DOES have taste, but people are used to hard amounts of dressing. Beef and meat and turkey and steak HAVE tastes, but people are so used to sauces that they can't appreciate it and cook it well. There was a time when condoments weren't so heavily used. That's part of the unhealthiness of meals.

[] Focus on eating big quantities of protein and fat. Carbs ARE not the preferred source of energy. When the body switches to burning fat, it will eat up your fat stores, but it takes 4 plus weeks to get used to fat over carbs. If you've been a long-time carb consumer, then you have a battle in switching over to fat and protein and moderate amount of carbs. I'm consuming about 20% of my calories as carbs. You WILL feel sluggish switching over, but even 100g of carbs in a day IS alot. The body runs on Fat, the Protein goes to the muscle, organ repair, and skin growth, etc. The carbs replenish the brain, blood, and liver sugar stores.

[] Have healthy alternatives to cheat, if you do. If you're going to jump at bad food, go for pudding instead of ice cream. If you cheat, so be it.

[] Be MORE active. More active people CAN eat more calorie dense, carb rich foods. They won't get as close to their potential, but still, they can do it without getting awful shape.


A-Unit
 

Phrost

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 17, 2006
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
Thanks for the encouragement guys, I'll keep eating less than what I'm using for a couple more months and see how it goes.

A-Unit, special thanks for the tips. They're perfect for someone like me just switching over to wholesome living. :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Gus

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 16, 2003
Messages
233
Reaction score
0
Location
Florida
Calorie-deficit diets only work for so long until your body compensates...it is best to just develop a healthy diet as a lifestyle instead of for the sole purpose of losing weight.
 

Phrost

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 17, 2006
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
I'm trying to be both healthy and lean, hopefully both. It's not much good if I'm healthy but still flabby.
 

Warboss Alex

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 7, 2005
Messages
4,113
Reaction score
29
Phrost said:
I'm trying to be both healthy and lean, hopefully both. It's not much good if I'm healthy but still flabby.
you can most definitely be both .. but you can have a little spare tyre and still be perfectly healthy. *pats tummy* more padding for the .. something or another.
 

Jariel

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2004
Messages
4,413
Reaction score
297
Location
UK
Personally I hate calorie counting, so when I'm cutting I just take as much fat, simple carbs and sugar out of my diet as possible while keeping protein high. I don't eat carbs 4 hours before bedtime and I try to get in 30-40 minutes of cardio before breakfast 2 times per week.

As others have said, don't expect results in a matter of weeks. Rapid weightloss is unhealthy and will leave you with sagging skin...and it's easier to regain as soon as you go back to regular eating.
 

Analytic

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 21, 2006
Messages
247
Reaction score
3
I lost 15lbs of fat within 12 weeks and gain 7lbs of muscle. I recommend that you just get the skinnyguy program if you are serious about getting fit.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

Warboss Alex

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 7, 2005
Messages
4,113
Reaction score
29
Analytic said:
I lost 15lbs of fat within 12 weeks and gain 7lbs of muscle. I recommend that you just get the skinnyguy program if you are serious about getting fit.
that's a tremendous gain - 22lb recomposition in 3 months is AWESOME. congratulations.
 

Disconnect

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 3, 2004
Messages
524
Reaction score
0
Age
38
I've been trying low(er) carb for about a year, and nothing. About 1.5 months ago, I switched to diesel's cutting guide. Dropped about 2% (something like 6 pounds) bfat, and actually improved my squat, bench, and military press. Now I'm kind of tapering off, raising back to maintainance, but still eating clean. High protein (1.5/2 g per lbs), moderate carbs properly timed and from clean sources (vegs, oatmeal), and about 30g of fat a day. Still doing HIIT.
 
Top