"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Your over it but everyone is still on it

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I know you can't run away from your problems but what if you've already moved on?

My ex & I have been broken up for over 15 months already, when I see her its as if I have this screen between her & me to the point where I don't feel anything. But people still love to mention it from time to time. Its as if i'm in the scarlett letter & have an A written on my chest for everyone to see. This girl has told the WORLD our story & uses it(and bends it to her benefit) to gain peoples sympathy. I've moved on & i've tried living my life for the right reasons & not dwelling on the past, so I don't play on winning people over to "my side" because i'm over it. But i'm starting to feel as if I am a P**SY for being so passive, but I've honestly had enough. Do I turn the other cheek or do I fight everyone for what is the truth. Am I a p**Sy for not putting everyone in their place (even though I feel by doing this i'm going back in time).

Any real honest or experienced opinions are welcomed & looked forward to.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Say anything.
 

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hb said:
I know you can't run away from your problems but what if you've already moved on?

My ex & I have been broken up for over 15 months already, when I see her its as if I have this screen between her & me to the point where I don't feel anything. But people still love to mention it from time to time. Its as if i'm in the scarlett letter & have an A written on my chest for everyone to see. This girl has told the WORLD our story & uses it(and bends it to her benefit) to gain peoples sympathy. I've moved on & i've tried living my life for the right reasons & not dwelling on the past, so I don't play on winning people over to "my side" because i'm over it. But i'm starting to feel as if I am a P**SY for being so passive, but I've honestly had enough. Do I turn the other cheek or do I fight everyone for what is the truth. Am I a p**Sy for not putting everyone in their place (even though I feel by doing this i'm going back in time).

Any real honest or experienced opinions are welcomed & looked forward to.

Anything you say can and will be twisted and used against you. Not to mention to add to peoples enjoyment to their dull, mundane everyday 'lives'.

I'd just respond: Don't ask me. Isn't that why God created Facebook and twitter? They're the nimrod's Wikipedia of daily mis-information.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When I was in that situation, I'd just make people feel lame for bringing it up. Just say something like, "Seriously, man? That was a year and a half ago. Haven't you found anything new to talk about in the past two years?"

I mean, don't get angry. Just be kinda sarcastic about it. It makes them look like geeks for continuing to talk about last year's news.
 

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Iceberg said:
When I was in that situation, I'd just make people feel lame for bringing it up. Just say something like, "Seriously, man? That was a year and a half ago. Haven't you found anything new to talk about in the past two years?"

I mean, don't get angry. Just be kinda sarcastic about it. It makes them look like geeks for continuing to talk about last year's news.
Good advice. You can also just pretend to look a bit suprised and say something along the lines of "wow, I had no idea this stuff was so important to you".
 
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