Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Your opinion on this cancellation excuse?

suikeisuru

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I had a second date tonight with a HB7. She called a few hours before the date and told me that something was fudged with the pipes in her apartment and the water is not working at all and she has to stay for maintenance as they need to get into her room.

I told her in a calm but serious tone that this was kind of an inconvenience as I made a reservation for dinner. She apologized profusely and told me that she is free next week. I didn't set a day however and I plan on calling her back on Sunday for that.

I do see her in school as she's a classmate. In your guys opinion, how do you think I should react/talk to her tomorrow as I see her in class?

I am going to give her one more chance because if I was in the same situation, I would of cancelled too.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Just play it cool; don't do anything different. Keep your plan, because I don't think someone would come up with that kind of excuse if it wasn't legitmat. On the other hand, it may have been an excuse, and if you find she has yet another one, then she is not interested.
 

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Originally posted by The Nice Guy is Gone
Just play it cool; don't do anything different. Keep your plan, because I don't think someone would come up with that kind of excuse if it wasn't legitmat. On the other hand, it may have been an excuse, and if you find she has yet another one, then she is not interested.
Yea. One more chance. Looking back at the phone call, I feel I was a bit harsher than she deserved and I think tomorrow before class I'll pull her aside and tell her I was just having a bad day (I'll say I got a bad grade on something, etc) and if I made her feel bad (I'm not going to say guilty as she should be feeling guily LOL) then I apologize.

But anyway, for those who may be thinking that I have ONE-itis, I do indeed have a coffee date tomorrow with a HB8.

If I was still in total AFC mode right now, I'd be pretty damn depressed but honestly as I type this I have been in better moods.

Anyway, to cure this I'm about to head to Starbucks to do some light sarging. :)
 

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no, hold on. Her pipes are down? lol, seriously, minutes before the date, her pipers just happen to be down......lol, come on dude seriously. For one, dont date your classmates, get them attracted to you and use them for social proof to fvck their friends. Fvcking people you have to see everyday can be a positive or a negative but its 50/50, why take the chances, hell if you're feeling so lucky you might as well play the lotto.

I dunno, she might be sincere about the pipes, I dont know, can't never say never. I just don't think you should date your classmates anyway, but get them attracted to you and use them for social proof around campus, so girls will be like, he knows a lot of girls, and that will make you more attractive. Ask me, theres a 50/50 chance she could be lying or telling the truth, either way, dont go apologizing to her tomorrow, dont go gettin all sensitive on her tomorrow. Actually, you just play everything cool tomorrow and let her come speak to you, dont go and speak first.
 

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Originally posted by Mr. Cardio
no, hold on. Her pipes are down? lol, seriously, minutes before the date, her pipers just happen to be down......lol, come on dude seriously. For one, dont date your classmates, get them attracted to you and use them for social proof to fvck their friends. Fvcking people you have to see everyday can be a positive or a negative but its 50/50, why take the chances, hell if you're feeling so lucky you might as well play the lotto.

I dunno, she might be sincere about the pipes, I dont know, can't never say never. I just don't think you should date your classmates anyway, but get them attracted to you and use them for social proof around campus, so girls will be like, he knows a lot of girls, and that will make you more attractive. Ask me, theres a 50/50 chance she could be lying or telling the truth, either way, dont go apologizing to her tomorrow, dont go gettin all sensitive on her tomorrow. Actually, you just play everything cool tomorrow and let her come speak to you, dont go and speak first.
She asked ME out for the first date.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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