"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your opinion on "going back", IF you were the one who messed up

Infern0

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Just want to get peoples opinions on this.

Say if back in your AFC days, you were seeing a girl who you really liked, however you were making a ton of AFC mistakes, and the usual she starts pulling away, and ends up getting with some other dude so you go NC

Well, if after say a year, you had learned the game, killed off the AFC, recognised that you made countless mistakes, then you get a text from the girl in question:

"Hey, it's "x" I as thinking about you and thought i'd text and see how you are?"

or something to words of that effect.

What would you do in that case?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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gravityeyelids

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It's completely fine. In many regards you are a completely different person. I'd go so far as to say that women find it very attractive when men go through major changes for the better. It's surprisingly not hard to shed the AFC rep, especially for girls you didn't really know that well. It takes all of about 10 minutes for her to get usedd to the "new you" and assume you've always been this cool. Now if you fvcked it up real bad then it might not work, but no real harm in trying

Think about this: how do you feel about the girl who used to be not very hot and kinda weird who suddenly gets hot and funny in college. She's attractive right? Right.

And yes, what Mauser said.
 

GS750

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A year is a long ass time. If you've made some positive changes why not try a second go around?
 

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Mauser96 said:
"I'm great thanks, It's good to hear from you. We should get together and catch up"

Then escalate and BANG

Hold on a sec. The girl is chasing Infern0, not the other way around. Your message turns it into that.

I suggest "Hey doing good...what's up?" She texted Infern0 for a reason, that reason being she was thinking about him and likely wants him to bone her. Let her continue chasing him. When she replies to the above text, Infern0 just texts back that he's going to be at X place at Y time for a drink and she should be there too.
 
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