"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your one tip to maintaining frame

Konada

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So many posts here reek of insecurity of 'how to maintain frame' with girls so I guess we need a compilation of tips for our brothers to internalize.

My one tip: Never be afraid to walk away, this is the one power nobody can take away from ourselves.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dhoulmagus

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Konada said:
So many posts here reek of insecurity of 'how to maintain frame' with girls so I guess we need a compilation of tips for our brothers to internalize.

My one tip: Never be afraid to walk away, this is the one power nobody can take away from ourselves.
Ya, I don't want to wake up and find out my vehicle has stopped working. Being like "oh well there are other cars" won't help migitate the risk of it breaking down or my reaction to a broken car. Your post is pessimistic and just always expecting the worse outcome. I agree, once the ship has sank than there's nothing that can be done, but who wants to constantly think the ship will sink.
 

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Always be in control of yourself and confident in your ability to deal with whatever comes.
 

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Stop giving a fvck. Once you think you have given up all the fvcks you could possibly give, then give even less fvcks.

If you're outcome dependent and don't care what happens, you won't lose your frame. Just like if you were approached by an obese lady at McDonald's, you wouldn't care about losing her because you invest NOTHING into her. Since you INVEST NOTHING, there is NOTHING TO BE LOST.

You can only 'lose frame' when you invest your identity in an unstable source such as a woman. Since that woman is subject to change, your identity will be shaken because you have invested part of it in her, and now she if she leaves, you feel like part of your self-worth has left with her. When the truth is you only lost what you invested in HER, and it was YOUR choice to invest in her at all to begin with.

If you see her value as a rare diamond to be cherished and possessed, you will be upset when you lose it because you thought you had something great. But if you see her value as a clump of dirt, well who cares about losing a clump of diet?

So the problem is your initial assessment of her, and ultimately rating her higher than she is. When really you're the precious diamond and she's the clump of dirt. Or at least you have to think this way. Then you will have the confidence to stay in frame all the time because you know you are above her, and that if she leaves nothing of you will be lost.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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