Your method of find your inner dj.

[chronic99uk]

Ok, title may be a bit confusing il explain.

Basically im going through a dry spell at the moment. Few rejections have downed my confidence.
Im told by others im good looking, i even put myself on hotornot, shamelessly, and got a 9.9
I get up infront of my uni course, roughly 50 people and give confident speeches and presentations, i dont get nervous, i can improv or talk quite easily.
But for some reason as soon as i get into a club and i feel i have to some how impress, i fall to bits and get a sinking feeling.
I havent experience this before, and am struggling to overcome it, i know the ability is in me as im a very confident person in all other situations.

Should i find the source of this problem, or do people have techniques for making it go away pre sarge?
thanks

 

[Docs]

Clubs are an entirely different enviroment...a BIG change from being the center of attention (whether in a group or one on one). In the club, now you have to worry about that 60/40% guy to girl ratio and everyone's there to compete...

Just get a few good buddies and have a good time

 

[chronic99uk]

Just get a few good buddies and have a good time

No offence, but thats what i do who doesnt, im not some lemming in the corner.
I just seem to miss enterpret looks for dont look for them, or dont react to them.
Within half hour is seems everyone is pair up and i dnot see what i have missed.

 

[DarkLight]

But for some reason as soon as i get into a club and i feel i have to some how impress, i fall to bits and get a sinking feeling.

Should i find the source of this problem, or do people have techniques for making it go away pre sarge?
thanks

Theres your problem right there.
WRONG FRAME!

You have the perspective ass backwards, thus its destroying you like kryptonite. Obviously this probably confuses you as it does... cause every other aspect of your life, should equal attraction... right!? lol

You merely have to understand the dynamics of ATTRACTION better. Thus the studying of "GAME." From there, its a matter of energetically reconditioning your mind, to see through the proper frames. Frames that are parallel with the understanding of GAME, yielding you the power of a DJ.

See it like this... your current frame of... "I feel I have to some how impress" naturally strips you of power/value... as thats the perspective it sees. It puts HER in the position of value. It puts her in the position of authority. It puts her in the seat of power.

WRONG WRONG WRONG!

I'm sure you can easily understand how flipping that perspective/frame... would yield the opposite.

"Hmm, I wonder which one of these girls is going to impress me the most?!"

Puts you in the position of Power
Puts you in the position of Authority
Puts you in the position of VALUE.

Now, how do you think your going to feel, from this opposite perspective!? lol
A lil better ay!

Check out my other thread in the Tips Section; [thread=113815]Comftorable Feeling Sexy!?[/thread]

Its exactly what your looking for, in regards to instilling new frames, all the while dissolving the old.

Peace'

 

[chronic99uk]

It is true yes what you say in the first bit, ive read the bible thing to see if it made any sense to my game. And i have to admit it did confuse me.
I have been travelling, I do go to clubs, I use the gym.
Im a confident person and very happy with my life, i just have terrible approac anxiety only brought on by massive public scenes.

Admittently i do have pedestal syndrome, but was looking for something to aid me away from this.