Your look is the hook. Your personality is the reel.

[iCatch]

There are a lot of guys that think they need a six pack or big biceps or a movie star face to get some hot girls. Okay seriously, no personality = no girls. As for the preferred bodytype.....every girl is different.

It's mainly about confidence and showing your the "alpha male" (term gets used too often here)

Your look is the hook, your personality is the reel. You can hook alot of fish, but if you are unable to reel them in then what's the point?

 

[COD]

well........I agree but which specific traits reel them in........oh I know confidence and humor........but saying just be confident is not specific.

Personality DOES NOT COVER: body language, openers, avitar, props,etc, etc.

Lets say GUY A is average looking and has a warm personality.........is that enough to seal the deal. Id say the basic components of "chemistry" is LOOKS VS. PERSONALITY.

i WOULD ADD.........atitude predetermines your altitude. One could have a cool personality but inject a bit of attitude and you results will grow exponentially. The ratio of importance of looks vs personality is approx. 70/30.

Everyone has peronality.........but charm, charisma,grace, bad boy edge, humor, etc are keys to a winning personality. Body language and outside influences ( cologne, apparel, jewelery, tonality, confidence, etc) ALSO PLAY AN IMPORTANT ROLE.

Saying blanket statements like be confident, be funny, its personality, is way to general.

ITS A FACT.........openers do work, kino escalates the seduction process, active dis-interest, perceived confidence, etc, etc do infact alter your success rate.

I THINKA TON OF PEOPLE.........FORGET INNER GAME......the most important of all traits is simple put ONE MUST HAVE IT GOING ON WITHIN YOUR OWN MIND BEFORE you exude outer game.

 

[HardTimes]

You definitely don't need a 6 pack or have big biceps but if you want at least an 8+ you DO need to look good. A lot of people on here refuse to admit it but most 8+ no matter how charming or smooth you are will not give you the time of day on a cold approach if you're not good looking.

The only way can ugly dude can date/sleep with an 8+ is to already know the girl by mutual friends and slowly lady down the charm casually.

 

[nismo-4]

You definitely don't need a 6 pack or have big biceps but if you want at least an 8+ you DO need to look good. A lot of people on here refuse to admit it but most 8+ no matter how charming or smooth you are will not give you the time of day on a cold approach if you're not good looking.

The only way can ugly dude can date/sleep with an 8+ is to already know the girl by mutual friends and slowly lady down the charm casually.

Or if he's super rich driving a Maybach. Looks decide how quickly and cheaply you get laid.

Looks get you in the door. Personality keeps you in the door. Personality is useless if you can't get in the f**king door.

Looks make the girl wanna be happy to talk about you with her friends. "Oh he's so goddamn sexy and he even looks fine while playing Mega Man 2!" All with a big smile on the face Someone in her circle may say "I wish I could have a Mega Man with me!" But if the guy is ugly and has a wonderful personality, the girl will be unhappy talking about you and bringing you around her social circle. It may even get to the point she dumps you cuz you're ugly.

Most guys say personality gets the girl. HELL NO! If it's all personality, you'll be like Indiana Jones evading the big rolling rock! i.e. the girl will test you all over the place.

Getting back to the original analogy, fish won't take a bare, boring hook. Put live bait on it and reel it in with all you got FTW!

Case closed.

 

[nismo-4]

There are no ugly millionaires.

Wrong. Look at Dennis Rodman, Patrick Ewing, Chamillionaire, Flava Flav...The list goes on homie!

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Wrong. Look at Dennis Rodman, Patrick Ewing, Chamillionaire, Flava Flav...The list goes on homie!

He was speaking from a "subjective" females' point of view.

 

[HardTimes]

Or if he's super rich driving a Maybach. Looks decide how quickly and cheaply you get laid.

Looks get you in the door. Personality keeps you in the door. Personality is useless if you can't get in the f**king door.

Looks make the girl wanna be happy to talk about you with her friends. "Oh he's so goddamn sexy and he even looks fine while playing Mega Man 2!" All with a big smile on the face Someone in her circle may say "I wish I could have a Mega Man with me!" But if the guy is ugly and has a wonderful personality, the girl will be unhappy talking about you and bringing you around her social circle. It may even get to the point she dumps you cuz you're ugly.

Most guys say personality gets the girl. HELL NO! If it's all personality, you'll be like Indiana Jones evading the big rolling rock! i.e. the girl will test you all over the place.

Getting back to the original analogy, fish won't take a bare, boring hook. Put live bait on it and reel it in with all you got FTW!

Case closed.

Yep pretty much. Although I will add that looks can get you laid even if you don't have personality. To keep a HB8+ as a gf or regular fbuddy you need both.

I wish more DJs would man up and admit looks matter. I'm not even talking about fat guys vs fit guys. There are a lot of fit guys that are ugly (me) and they have the same problem as fat guys.

 

[IKO69]

These looks related threads could be simply summed up in this way---just do whatever you can to look your best with what you've got. No, looks aren't everything. We've all seen "average" guys with attractive women that prove this. However it's no excuse to be lazy and neglect yourself. You sometimes see guys out in public that are dressed like bums, have no pride or self respect at all and then wonder why they seem to repel women. Maybe those guys have kick ass personalities that will draw the women, most don't find out because they come across as slobs and defeat themselves before the race even begins.

I think first impressions are bull**** but am not naive to admit they don't matter.