Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Your life purpose is to find out who you really are

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Insecure people are not happy with who they are. They want themselves to be something else and more often than not they do not even really know what they want to be.
The player does know (somewhat) what he wants to be. He has probably read “the game” and wants to be an ultimate pick-up-artist but that’s another issue.

The point is that I believe our main purpose in this life is to find out WHO WE ARE, it is our job to find out what is our mission here. We all hear people say “I don’t know it just feels that I have lost the reason for living”.This is the very essence of our lives – to find out who we are and to find a reason in that.

And as we know in our modern society where everyone is supposed to follow the same path of life (school, college, marriage, kids) it becomes harder and harder for youngsters and teenagers to find their reason and also their true self.

This is where girls come in. In our society girls are perceived to have much value because it seems to be the reason you are here in this world. To find a WOMAN, have kids and support the family.

And since this seems the easiest way to find your reason in life almost all of us take that journey. But this is where people from SOSUAVE gain the biggest edge in life, for they have understood that satisfying girls can never be your true purpose on this planet.

The true purpose for you on this planet is so simple yet almost all of us miss it completely.

Why do you see some old people are happy and serene with their life and smile when they see young couples in love and wish them only well with no jealousy clouding that.
It is because these people have been the lucky ones to have taken the only true road that nature has set upon us. It is the road to self-discovery.
So many people in this forum want to change themselves they want to be someone else something bigger, smarter, and stronger. But what they miss is that you WILL become bigger, smarter, and stronger once you really discover yourself.
These people are fighting a war which might give them good results (many women, good career) but these people never win the war, they always feel there is one more mission to accomplish and they can never be truly happy.

And once you have discovered what you really want, you need to set a goal
A goal that you will not achieve in 30-50 years. Why is that? You ask
Because its not the goal you are after, it is the anticipation of getting to the goal that keeps a man moving. The point of this goal is to always motivate you; it is to get you up at a dark and rainy winter morning.
And maybe one morning many decades from now you will wake up and your goal has become a reality. And then you will understand that it was never the goal that made you get up and enjoy your life all these years.
The goal was set only to get you moving, so you could enjoy the road towards the goal
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But how can we really discover ourselves…we need something to reflect on.
BINGO, THERE IS THE ANSWER- and yes again its women. They are the reflective creatures; this is why we are drawn to them by nature. It is because only with their help can we really discover ourselves. Women discover your biggest weaknesses and your biggest strengths.
Another thing is I encourage you to trust yourself and develop deep feelings for your friends and open up your heart to other people.
You should always open up to other people, this is the only way to find out whether they make true friends or not.


This is also why so many AFCs are having a hard time understanding women.. BECAUSE THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND HOW TO BE MEN. You can only understand women once you become a true man. It is the doubt and uncertainty of who THEY ARE that is being reflected back to them from women.

The player on the other hand knows what he wants to see in the reflection so he makes himself blind to the actual way of things and builds up a nice front to see, so he would never have to deal with his true insecurities.

But the DON JUAN is on a different path… he is on the path of self-improvement. He is not afraid of the truth and faces it right on.
He understands that women can not make you confident or attractive because they only reflect you of what you already have. So he works on himself and the reflection become brighter and brighter as years go by.
 

foxhound87

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Nice post!, just another noob you have made some great post's lately...
 

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Awesome post
 

ChrizZ

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question:

Is it possible to be both a PUA and a DJ?
 

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Yea you're right.

I always thought that the ultimate, eventual goal of a PUA, is to not need to be a PUA.....if that makes any sense, lol. :D
 

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All this discover who you are stuff is really just intellectual masturbating. I mean, does it really have any meaning?

But, the part about the player living in denial is really true. You always get these guys who think they are good with women get rejected by about 1000 of them everytime they go out. Still walk tall and think they have something to be proud about. Getting even one rejection simply tells you, your wrong.
 

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The OP is only semi-correct. The purpose in life of a real man is not to discover himself; rather, it is to invent himself. The former is passive, the latter active.

It is true that we need to get a handle on what basic traits we are born with and our likes/dislikes, which is why I'm awarding partial credit.

But make no mistake, your life purpose is to invent yourself; to identify the traits that will make you a well-rounded, masculine man, and then to do the work of incorporating those traits into your persona.

Sun Tzu
 

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the problem here.. is that everyone will pause their porn they are watching for a mintue to read this post.. then carry on as their normal, sucky ass selves.
 

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This post is really good stuff. Read any history, you'll notice that the men DID stuff, while the women played minor roles taking care of housework and the like. Guess what? Still the same underlying patriarchy is etched into the minds of all modern humans, and you'll notice that the guys that have luck with women, or that are content with their lives (if not both), concentrate on doing something other than chasing skirts. If you build it, they will come. And if you know what you're doing, they will come more than once. :crackup:
 

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Wow. He just described me. Creepy.


It really does feel like a war that can never be won. I have a hard time liking myself sometimes because I feel like there is still so much I have to change about myself/learn, and it feels like it will never end.
 
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