"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your Life experiences represents "pandora Box" when it comes to conversation topics.

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AS it stands I see lots of stuff posted on this forum of how to get conversation going or better yet started but, I find myself so unique that talking about my experiences alone makes a good rapport with girls.
They get so much into it that now I have to eject with their number otherwise I would never stop talking and they'd never stop interacting, as I'm naturally very energetic, and of positive nature, and it works very well when building first stages of comfort with girls...

My background, conversation topics..

#1) I lived in India for 14 years, and this is my 11th year in Canada, so I'm a blend of both worlds, with strong family values, and also liberal Canadian values.

#2) Studied in Christian high school

#3) I consider myself to be a mensch, which means I believe in on personal growth on a regular basis, and I am dedicated to improving myself, eg. Currently Taking various dance, swimming and other lessons..

#4) I am also very knowledgeable about lots of other stuff weather it be spiritual, political or sports, I give equal time to all and everything so its much easier to talk, about any of these topics too..

#5) Full time university student

#6) lived in village and studied in city back in India...

#6) I am very good with entertainment and technology stuff as I usually got Ipod, Laptop or other gadgets in hand.

#8) Very high class shopper, I buy to impress, most of my clothes come at seasons end so already at least at 80% discount, so thats another topic to talk about.

What do you guys think about these topics? would you say its best to talk about what I am or is it better to talk about things to impress them?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I see a lot about "what you've done" but little about "who you are."
 

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the point of this post, Francisco, is NOT what or who he is. It is about his speaking of his experiences which is the same personality that I have. It is a form of DHVing, but it is not.

I don't attempt to do it, it sorta just comes out. Women love it and eat it up. I had girls, older women, and girls with boyfriends hand me their number. Recently, I had a girl ask me if I could take her virginity from her. I have a girlfriend, otherwise I would have done it (thats it though, she is a little bit off and has a few deepseated emotional problems).

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comic_relief said:
the point of this post, Francisco, is NOT what or who he is. It is about his speaking of his experiences which is the same personality that I have. It is a form of DHVing, but it is not.

I don't attempt to do it, it sorta just comes out. Women love it and eat it up. I had girls, older women, and girls with boyfriends hand me their number. Recently, I had a girl ask me if I could take her virginity from her. I have a girlfriend, otherwise I would have done it (thats it though, she is a little bit off and has a few deepseated emotional problems).

comic_relief
The thing is that I personally know three guys who can easily attest to sever of the eight things listed, I bet if I asked around I could easily find and group of random guys who have at least have of the same experience. I'm not saying that those things aren't interesting, just that that it says nothing that shows his character.

Even you can't determine whether it's showing higher value or not so what's actually the point? Unless you are sarging women who have little to no life experience, they won't really see anything that grabs their attention.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
The thing is that I personally know three guys who can easily attest to sever of the eight things listed, I bet if I asked around I could easily find and group of random guys who have at least have of the same experience. I'm not saying that those things aren't interesting, just that that it says nothing that shows his character.

Even you can't determine whether it's showing higher value or not so what's actually the point? Unless you are sarging women who have little to no Thoslife experience, they won't really see anything that grabs their attention.
very true, Francisco.

Those stories are like the topic sentence of a paper. Would you put all the details in the topic sentence or would you leave that for the body of the paper?

Think of these stories as topic sentences and then the rest of the story of the body, details and what the person is like is found in the body.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The thing is

Francisco d'Anconia said:
The thing is that I personally know three guys who can easily attest to sever of the eight things listed, I bet if I asked around I could easily find and group of random guys who have at least have of the same experience. I'm not saying that those things aren't interesting, just that that it says nothing that shows his character.

Even you can't determine whether it's showing higher value or not so what's actually the point? Unless you are sarging women who have little to no life experience, they won't really see anything that grabs their attention.


I'd have already set my self apart by approaching, now this stories will only add to my confident nature, as I realized that I will be more comfortable and myself if I talk about familiar stuff that way I'm more in control, and I'm not trying to fake it.

I already consider myself to be prize, so my game is now to tone down, and get them to talk and my stories will make them more comfortable, and take out any resistance they might have.

I am now more concerned about body language, and tonality then the content of the interaction, its all about how you present yourself in the initial stages of the interaction...
 

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Canadien said:
I'd have already set my self apart by approaching
Believe me, you haven't, I can categorically state that.
 
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