Your life along with women.

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Ok, then post will mainly be for the younger guys.

Alot of people come here to learn how to meet women. Nothing wrong with that. But, alot of people are neglecting some posts about improving you. Such as being a man, having prioritys, having goals, dreams and ect.

Women should not be your priority. Sure, we need them like they need us. Because, it is duality that creates life. But, that is another story. What I would like to talk about is YOU not, women.

Who are you?
What do you want to be?
What do you have a passion for?

Most people will ask you; "what do you want to be when you grow up?
Some will say a firemen, police man, business man, marine, football player, laywer, doctor and ect. Everyone wants to have a good job, make good money, be successful, and have beautiful women.

Now, ask yourself this. How are you gonna achieve this? Are you gonna go to school and get an education. Get a job and work to the top? Or you gonna sit around settle for what you can and hope the opportunity falls in your lap. You must set goals and steps to get what you want. You need to go out in the world and kick its a$$! You gotta work hard in this life to get what you want and be who you want to be.

Nothing in this world is free and you can't have someone hold your hand forever. Reality will slap you hard one day and you will regret you never took action earlier. After you graduate high school and 10 years go by. Where are you gonna be? Are you gonna be the stoner who sits around and plays video games all day. Settling for a crappy job at McDonalds?

Maybe, you got your sh!t together and can say; "I am business owner who loves my job." "I don't need to worry if I can pay the rent, pay the bills, or struggling with life." "I have great friends and lots of hobbys. Women lust for me cause I am a man who has a life and little time for women."

You gotta be a man before you can become anything! Most people on here are worrying too much about women and putting too much time into women. Women arent going to improve you, get you a job, or anything like that. They just give you company, sex and what some people call "love."

You need to be putting time into yourself! When you are older and look back on your life. Are you gonna have regrets and say to yourself. "Man, I wish I made more friends, had more fun, did more things..."

So, this is what I suggest you guys do:

-Figure out who you are
-Find out what you want to be
-Lists goals you want to accomplish in your life
-Plan how you will achieve these goals
-Have a back up plan incase it doesn't work out
-Stay positive
-Never give up
-Don't let people discourage you and your dreams
-Work hard
-Never settle for less - Keep improving and improving
-If you fail keep going.
-Find your weakness's and work on them

The list can go on but, YOU are the only one who can make these changes. No one else can. So, lets say you got a good education and have a good job. So, what do you do in your spare time? Watch tv, play video games, sit on the computer... If that is all you do then, you need to enhance your life with fun things to do. Go for a bike ride, fishing, hunting, hiking, lift weights, pick up a book, learn to play a instrument, learn a new skill, hang out with your friends...

Okay, okay.. The point of this thread is; knowing yourself, improving yourself, working hard to get what you want, having a life. Now, where does this tie into women. It will make you DESIRABLE!! You will be the PRIZE!! Women will look at you and think; "This guy has everything going for him, he is fun, interesting, mysterious..."

Because, you are so busy with your life and having little time for women. Women will be lusting for your time and attention. Now, if you ain't good with women this is why this site is here. Learn all this Don Juan sh!t and work hard on this. Take risks and if you fail keep trying. Practice makes perfect!

Remember, you must improve yourself and get your life together first. Then, the women will come my friends. I hope this may inspire some people. I would go into more details. But, its a spare the moment type of advice.

 

[ManUnited01]

Amen brother.

Amen.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Thanks for the reply. I keep seeing all these posts with guys over analyzing women. Putting too much thought and time into women. Being depressed and ect. They are forgetting to focus on themselves.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Bump. Wanted more people to read or discuss. (Maybe, this isn't the advice ppl are looking for.)

 

[JUAN the Great]

Dude, thank you for giving this advice to the world. If more people followed your advice then there would be no cause for frustration. People don't realize that they are the gatekeepers to there potential. Alas people would rather stay being mediocre than to acieve some level of greatness; they would rather complain then do something about their situation. ALL PEOPLE NEED TO FOLLOW THIS ADVICE. JAY

 

[ManUnited01]

I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and I can't stress enough how important this advice is. Forget about women, they're just not that important.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I'm glad my insight helped someone else.

I know SS is mainly about women. But, I believe people need to worry about themselves and their future. Women will always be there no matter what. And guys on here are worrying about... What to text her, what to say, when to call, should I go for the kiss and ect. Stop that sh!t. You need to take risks, believe in your self, and figure things out for yourself.

You guys are letting SoSuave guide you through everything. It's like this is your comfort zone. The successful people didn't have people hold their hand. They went out into the world and did it for themselves. Took risks and didn't take no for an answer. They kept trying until they made it to the top!

 

[DonGorgon]

Who are you?
What do you want to be?
What do you have a passion for?

1. I am a seeker of women
2. I want to be a man with access to many pretty women
3. I have passion for pretty women

Those are the three most truthful answers you will seldom get..

 

[LostAndConfused]

Thanks for the reply. I keep seeing all these posts with guys over analyzing women. Putting too much thought and time into women. Being depressed and ect. They are forgetting to focus on themselves.

Yeah we overanalyze a ton in this forum.

We ALWAYS put the blame on some mistake that we've done instead of perhaps understanding that you and the girl simply weren't compatible....she realized it and you didnt.

But focusing on yourself is hard for people like me when you have no idea of what you want to do as an adult.

Some want to be doctors

Others businessmen

Others politicians

Others lawyers

But I have no fucking idea.

I don't know what I'll do in the future. I may end up not having a single pursuable passion.

Its like you expect us to know what we want to be as adults ahead of time. I"m sure I'm not alone in that I have no clue.

The ONLY THING that I do know is that I want an attractive girl.

Like DonGorgon said. I mean I'm passionate about sports but its too late for me to go on the professional track for soccer in America....and I'm passionate about girls.

 

[Bizzaro]

Thanks for the reply. I keep seeing all these posts with guys over analyzing women. Putting too much thought and time into women. Being depressed and ect. They are forgetting to focus on themselves.

Yes, they over-analyze women and under-analyze themselves.

Find yourself is key to building a stable foundation, how could you build a house, more importantly, a strong one, built to last, if you don't get a strong foundation for it?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

1. I am a seeker of women
2. I want to be a man with access to many pretty women
3. I have passion for pretty women

Those are the three most truthful answers you will seldom get..

But, where will that get you in life? Women will not get you anywhere.

Yeah we overanalyze a ton in this forum.

We ALWAYS put the blame on some mistake that we've done instead of perhaps understanding that you and the girl simply weren't compatible....she realized it and you didnt.

But focusing on yourself is hard for people like me when you have no idea of what you want to do as an adult.

Some want to be doctors

Others businessmen

Others politicians

Others lawyers

But I have no fucking idea.

I don't know what I'll do in the future. I may end up not having a single pursuable passion.

Its like you expect us to know what we want to be as adults ahead of time. I"m sure I'm not alone in that I have no clue.

The ONLY THING that I do know is that I want an attractive girl.

Like DonGorgon said. I mean I'm passionate about sports but its too late for me to go on the professional track for soccer in America....and I'm passionate about girls.

Yes, it is hard choice to make to what you want to be. Sure, you know you want an attractive woman. But, everyone else does too. I don't really expect you to know what you want to before you an adult. But, it is good to plan ahead of time to have those goals and dreams to pursue. Having beautiful women and putting all your time and effort into them will not (IMO) get you anywhere in life. Which, is why I believe the younger guys need to focus on themselves and not worry about girls so much.

The young guys are just having fun think their untouchable. Later in life looking back or seeing where you are. Are you gonna be happy with yourself? The main point to what I am saying is focus on you more than girls.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

To further explain what I am talking about....

This was written by Pook:

A Man is a guy who is not scared of his testosterone!

A Man follows the passion in his life. Passion of women? Of course not. A Man has goals and desires that goes above that of chasing chicks. After childhood, there are TRUE winners and losers in life. A Man desires to be the winner. A Man WANTS to win in what he does. Because of his passion, a Man can sometimes come off as arrogant and egotistical. He does not apologize for this or for his desires.

"It is your actions that cause the disgrace of Men," says the Nice Guy.

"It is yours," replies the Jerk.

No, gentlemen, the disgrace of men is in not embracing your true nature: following your passion and, thus, loving life. Women are to enhance your life, not to be your life. So to the Nice Guy, stop placing your happiness on getting a girlfriend. To the Jerk, quit wasting your life on seduction. Don't SPEND your time chasing girls, INVEST it by putting it into your interests and desires, thus the whole of your life.

When you do this, all of a sudden you have what every woman wants: Ambition, charge, decisiveness, backbone, kindness, stableness, and confidence

A Man,

-Does not go through life walking on eggshells.

Nice Guys think, "Does she like me? How do I get her to like me?" Good guys think, "Should I like her? Should I go for her?" The Good guy doesn't think about the girl's interest until they're dating. The Good guy looks at all the girls and TAKES what he wants.

-Focuses on his dreams.

No, this does not include the chick. You must have passion for something in life, something you even want to do for the rest of your life. Your romantic life is an echo of your regular life.

-Does not apologize for his testosterone, for his desires.

"Oh, I am so sorry, ladies! I am afflicted with this disease known as M.A.L.E. It is natural for me to glance at you, your oh so curvaceous body. I am soooo sorry. Please, please FORGIVE ME!"

Would a WOMAN apologize for her feminine acts? So why should YOU apologize for your masculinity?

-Tries to always win in what he does. (After childhood, there are real winners and losers in life.)

Men build towers; women build webs. If you aren't constructing your tower or aren't even planning it, why should she cast her web at you? If you want worthy chicks, you, yourself, must strive to become worthy.

-Has deep convictions that allows him to be a possible leader.

This is crucial because one day you will become the leader of your own household. Yes, we talk of 50/50, of everything being equal, but Nature's laws surpass that of Humans. Women naturally submit and nurture, Men naturally lead and provide.

If you were a woman, would YOU want a Nice Guy in charge of your household? Or would you want A MAN?

-Seeks to solve problems then to place blame.

If there is a problem, you solve it. You do not go, "Oh, BOO HOO! This was because of HIM." A woman naturally wants a guy who deals with problems, not pass them along. (Would you want that in your woman? Of course not!)

-Sees failure as only a temporary set-back to the inevitable.

Statistically, you're more likely to be REJECTED then to be ACCEPTED. So how do you become more and more accepted and have lots of girls? It is when you increase your trying so much that the acception rate satisfies you and you don't notice the rejections.

Napoleon Hill's book interviewing extremely successful people, these men of destiny did not let failure destroy them. Indeed, Napoleon concludes that Destiny puts out these trials and failures to TEST the men if they are proper and FIT for their role in shaping history.

-Knows where he is going in Life.

True seduction isn't calculation or painful discipline, it is the same as with everything that makes a success: A Passion for Life.

-Never loses his passion, for that would be the death of his soul.

Nice Guys HATE bachelorhood. They HATE, HATE, HATE it sooo much. Some even wish for the old days of arranged marriages so they wouldn't have to put up with all the games.

Jerks LOVE bachelorhood so much they can't see anything else in life. While women love guys that can get women, jerks offer nothing worthwile long term wise.

Alas, the women always try to change the Jerk but never the Nice Guy. Why? Because a Man is STRENGTH and a Jerk displays strength on some level. Nice Guys never do.

-Never feels he has to prove himself to anyone.

Flowers, candy, poetry all can be good additions to a relationship, but so many nice guys use them to BUY the relationship as if they must prove themselves. They flood with the poor woman with gifts to show they mean it.

So away with the flowers, those dead plants as tokens of affection. Away with the choclate, the candy, and sweets, those sugary pursuits to purchase love. Away with the poety, those rotten verses of declarations of love. Away with the quest to prove YOURSELF and let her prove HERSELF to you for YOU are the Don Juan.

Be a Man! And with it, you will advance in your career, your social life, and even your dealings with women. Men are very rare these days so if you become one, you will be in HIGH demand. Your career will become better as people look at you as a leader. Life will re-develop before your eyes for you will obtain the most single quality that men, not trophy husbands, not nice guys, not tactiful players, but men have a monopoly on: Respect.

YOU are the MAN! For if you don't STAND for something, you shall FALL for everything!

Or.. Senor Fingers - The Power of Priorities - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=138896

Traps of Life - http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=27775

 

[john_JOHN]

I want to be a man with access to many pretty women

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I want to be a man with access to many pretty women

Read some Pook!

 

[DonGorgon]

But, where will that get you in life? Women will not get you anywhere..

Well nature only requires you to get as many of your spermatazoas to fertilize as many ovums as possible to continue the human species...

Any other meaning of life is a side note..

 

[LostAndConfused]

Well nature only requires you to get as many of your spermatazoas to fertilize as many ovums as possible to continue the human species...

Any other meaning of life is a side note..

Amen.

As Dave Chappelle said, I could live in a cardboard box if I wanted, as long as I could fvck the girls I desire.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Well nature only requires you to get as many of your spermatazoas to fertilize as many ovums as possible to continue the human species...

Any other meaning of life is a side note..

Yes, the sperm and the egg come together creating a baby that we cannot alone create. Which is why duality creates life. But, our life has more meaning to it besides opposites coming together forming a larger unit. (family)

So, are you suggesting being depressed, having no friends, hobbys, dreams, goals, or anything is ok in life. But, it doesn't matter cause your banging some hot chick? If all you care about in life is fvcking women. To me that is a waste of time. Women should only be there to enhance your life.

Maybe your life is so dull the only way you can make yourself feel complete is by having women wanting you. If you want to have a sh!tty job, struggle with life, and have all these other problems that is fine with me. Aslong as your happy with your life.

 

[DonJuan11]

Just watch alot of porn. It will brutalize a woman's sexuality for you and you'll realize they ain't nothing to be afraid of.

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Will: Sorry I can't go with you, maybe I'll see you at game.
Queen Latifah: Maybe you will. I'll be the one in the front row screaming my phone number out to Magic Johnson
Will (to Carleton): Hope Magic ate his Wheaties

 

[redspicyflag]

OMG

Bump this sh!t

It's my philosophy

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Just watch alot of porn. It will brutalize a woman's sexuality for you and you'll realize they ain't nothing to be afraid of.

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Will: Sorry I can't go with you, maybe I'll see you at game.
Queen Latifah: Maybe you will. I'll be the one in the front row screaming my phone number out to Magic Johnson
Will (to Carleton): Hope Magic ate his Wheaties

Ok, your being a smart a$$ with me or your missing my point. :crackup: Women should not be numero uno on your list. It should be YOU