"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Your lacking a spark in the eyes

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older woman told me that today, girls want crazy guys and you come off as to much of a saint for your own good, that i have melancholic eyes

yeah im a virgin, but can it be that they see that on a guys face.i dont think that would be possible. she would say also that i give an old man vibe, that's why she approached me. she never guessed i was 39 :whistle:

can it be the eyelid shape that gives that sad vibe?

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if it physical do tell me if its not, how can i get rid of that "saint" "serious" vibe.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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At the risk of having you ignoring and not acknowledging our help yet again, I suggest you do what I do... practice facial expressions.

I'm a serious looking guy, and I think it's because I've been in constant severe pain all my life (chronic intestinal inflammation). The intense pain that I feel almost never goes away and I'm sure that shows on my face from several decades of it.

In order to compensate I've been practicing smiling to great effect. For you, I would practice an exaggerated looking surprised and excited in the mirror, as if you just accidentally ran into someone who you genuinely like to be with. This will get you used to using those facial muscles. Then, tone it down and find your sweet spot. Practice it several times a day by yourself and when you run into people. Soon it will become second nature.

Little baby steps accumulate into big results.
 

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Your eyes are fine. Please read the Book of Pook and quit making these frivolous threads.

Also, different people often will have different eyes based on their MBTI type. I would guess ISTJ or INFP for you. You come across as serious because your "Feeling" is of the introverted variety. Find a girl who likes you instead of one who criticizes your facial expressions.
 

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Have you ever seen a picture of Disney cartoonists? They all have a mirror at their desks and they are constantly making facial expressions into them in order to be able to accurately draw the emotion they want the character to convey. There's something to be learned in that.
 

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[–]inspainiamaspaniard [score hidden] 11 minutes ago
Your photos are creepy.

so... i was right. it may be the braces holding me back i dont know
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Next thread will be about a pimple on your arse, relax dude. Let go.....meditate, you are wasting time get out of your own head
 
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