Your Interest vs Female's interest

[Mog116]

I need some advice yall:

There this girl that I've known for a while...We've went out/chilled a couple times..enjoyed each others company...communicate usually once a week.

The thing is I'm tired wasting time with some girls not knowing how they feel about me ....I want to basically let her know I'm feeling her or w.e and in return get a feel for how's she feeling about me.

We're on spring break now (college) and I want to get this done ASAP, so I can pursue something with her or move on to other girls when I get back to school.

Should I just call her up and be straight up?...or How would yall do this?

 

[Chamber36]

sure confess your undying love for her. I bet she will reciprocate. Then you can fornicate.

No, but seriously. It sounds like you have no clue what you're doing.

Just ask her out for a date and then whip out a bottle of wine.

But I think she doesn't even see you as a sexual person. So good luck making that not-awkward.

 

[Mike32ct]

No, you can't TELL her how you feel or ASK her how she feels. If she isn't feeling you, it can make things awkward. If she is (or shall I was) feeling you, this can actually scare her off and kill the attraction. Please don't do it.

Your ONLY choice is, like Chamber suggests, to make a move on her. Have some drinks together, just the two of you, then look in her eyes, brush her hair aside with your fingertips, and slowly move in for a kiss.

I mean this is friggin' Springge Brake. You are either going to get a deep kiss and/or makeout which means she likes you, or she's gonna turn her head, which means you are in friendzone.

If she makes out with you, break the kiss fairly soon, keep talking and cuddling, then invite her a little while later to your room to "relax and watch some tv." Then go for it.

Don't get TOO kissy and gropey (not words lol) in public. Actually minimize the making out in public. It can actually make it harder to pull by making you look too hungry. Plus she might want discretion. She doesn't need your mutual friends to know you hooked up or are going to hook up.

The point is, you can't ASK if she's feelin' ya. My method is low risk anyway. At worst, you had a few drinks with a friend and leaned in for a kiss. Big deal. Even if she friendzone's you, she won't be offended.

Make a move to find out what's going on. If she's not into you, get out there and meet other girls ASAP. Time is a wastin'.

Good luck bro.

 

[sighsigh]

The thing is I'm tired wasting time with some girls not knowing how they feel about me

How would you not know this? A girl who likes you will give you IOIs, and her IOIs are almost always noticeable. If you don't know whether she's giving you IOIs, then it's 98% probable she isn't. You thinking there's a possibility she is is just wishful thinking.

But of course, there's a pretty easy way to find out if she likes you for sure. Which is asking her out on a date. Don't actually ask her whether she likes you or not... that would sound awkward in most cases.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

We're on spring break now (college) and I want to get this done ASAP, so I can pursue something with her or move on to other girls when I get back to school.

Is there a rule somewhere that says:

"When infatuated with one girl, you are not allowed to concurrently pursue other women??"

If so I missed that memo.

Read this and then read the DJ Bible before you make a huge mistake.

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/category/plate-theory/






PIMP

 

[konmai]

Please listen to these guys for your own sake or you're gonna mess up big.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

The type of mindset you have will lead to failure I assure you. You're wantimg to.rush things or get to the bottom line. When you have this feeling the girl is typically tginking the opposite...she's in no rush. Go pursue other girls

 

[rrrrr]

Have you ever told her anything like you think she's attractive? Yes, just coming out and saying you love her would freak her out but I'm sure you know that. What you need to do is escalate this, she may very well like you but if you haven't escalated, she might not. Look back and ask yourself if you've ever done anything other than to treat her like a friend. Lots of good advice on this thread. For example "pursuing her or moving on to other girls" is not the right mindset either.

 

[nismo-4]

This case is easy for Judge nismo! :rock:

Tell her you love her. Problem solved. Instant win! :flowers:

FOR THE GIRL, THAT IS!!! :kick:

Spin more plates, you should be doing so at all times. :yes:

If you want sex, stop acting like a f**kin' friend! :trouble:

Make a move on this girl. If she ain't feeling you, accept that your princess is in another castle and move on!

Case closed. Damn. :woo:

 

[runner83]

This case is easy! :rock:

Tell her you love her. Problem solved. Instant win! :flowers:

FOR THE GIRL, THAT IS!!! :kick:

Spin more plates, you should be doing so at all times. :yes:

If you want sex, stop acting like a f**kin' friend! :trouble:

Make a move on this girl. If she ain't feeling you, accept your princess is in another castle and move on!

Case closed. Damn. :woo:

^^ Nailed it.