"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your insecurities are meaningless.

superchristx

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You've got a high voice. You're losing your hair. You've got a small d!ck. You have bad skin. You're ten pounds over weight. You're a lousy public speaker. Your hair sticks up. You're pigeon toed. You're still a virgin. You have a speech defect. Everybody has these insecurities, they spend more time dwelling on their flaws than anybody looking at them EVER would, and they waste so much life and energy worrying about stuff that other people notice, and then forget. Everybody knows people who are bald. Everybody has friends with bad skin, or who are fat, and they like them just fine.

I was a little fattie in high school, not so bad, probably 30-40 pounds over my ideal weight, but it still bothered the hell out of me. One night I was watching a school play with my then girlfriend, and there was another kid, a fat kid, up on stage. He was constantly tugging at his shirt, pulling it away from his stomach because he was SO self conscious about his weight. The funny thing is, to the rest of the world they saw him as a little big and moved on, to hear what he was saying or see how he could act. For him he was constantly aware of his belly and that insecurity was more apparent, more offensive than his weight ever could be. Now I'm just a little fat, and I tuck in my shirt because I know I can't fool anybody by leaving it un-tucked.

What's important is INNER strength, and self acceptance. A woman is more attracted to a man who's short, and fine with it, than a man who's tall but ashamed of what he is. ALL game is inner game. The ugliest man, baldest, runtiest in the world can get the hottest babe, just look at Dennis Kusinich.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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KontrollerX

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True and they are self destructive.

A person with self love and the confidence that comes from that can weather any storm and survive the world falling down around him.
 

Jon55

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If you think about how much time you actually spend worrying about someone noticing your weakness/insecurity because of (insert whatever your problem is here) it's pretty bad.

I mean some of us seriously go overboard on this sh!t.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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johnny_depp

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I like this tip, thanks alot. Its very true I believe.

Tommorow ill give this a try.
 
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