Your GF asks you to go to "therapy"

[Gamisch]

Because almost any time you hear about people going to therapy and one person doesn't want to go it's almost always the man, never the woman.

That's surprising to me.

Knowing what we know now( that women getvbirre quicker, men struggle much more with dating ect) it's not that strange to believe that LTR therapy is more of a hallmark used by men who invested heavily in the relationship.

 

[Barrister]

That's surprising to me.

Knowing what we know now( that women getvbirre quicker, men struggle much more with dating ect) it's not that strange to believe that LTR therapy is more of a hallmark used by men who invested heavily in the relationship.

Most women who are in the process of checking out of a relationship will suggest therapy not as a means to actually change themselves to save it but just to check a box and be able to tell their friends they “tried” and they just couldn’t fix the man after all to change his ways and “understand her.”

There’s probably some truth that men typically don’t want to go - with very good reason. It’s expensive and rarely works. For all the reasons we’ve already discussed in this thread.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I have never had a good experience in it. Someone’s going to get really raw and if either of the parties is not good at handling honest personal work (most people) it’s going to below up. Always had for me.

 

[Alvafe]

Your LTR girlfriend asks you to go to couples therapy.

Is this happened to your LTR?
Even if not, what would you do?

Since my communication style is based on non violent comunication, and assertivity, I will have her explain to me why we need this, and then it's up to me to decide whether or not

I skiped a lot of comments, so I don't know if someone already said this, just end it the LTR, ITS a GF and she want a 3rd party already to meddle? yeah end it and move on, there is not salvaging it.

plus finding a real neutral party to help is almost impossible, everyone will have a beef to do or belive he is right, remember the whole communication is key? yeah she is not learning that now, and "communication" from woman is you listen and do what she want not find a common ground

again end it and move on, will save you headache and money, because i'm sure she is not paying for it

 

[Manure Spherian]

Your LTR girlfriend asks you to go to couples therapy.

Is this happened to your LTR?
Even if not, what would you do?

Since my communication style is based on non violent comunication, and assertivity, I will have her explain to me why we need this, and then it's up to me to decide whether or not

Therapy for a serious “gf”? Hell’s no.

Therapy for a serious marriage problem? Perhaps.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Couples therapy, never.

I think therapy can work one on one IF you find a therapist who's a good match for you and if you have attainable goals in mind. This requires serious work: finding the therapist (it can be like dating), and identifying and striving towards personal development ideally with an end game. So you are not in a therapy loop.

With couples therapy, it becomes performative. The ego will supersede the id. Maybe some couples can be 100% honest with a therapist but then if so they shouldn't need one. And whether man or woman they will lean toward the feminine imperative. Even one on one you are unlikely to meet a male therapist who recognizes game, lol.

 

[jhonny9546]

Avoid it would be my advice.

Avoidance demonstrates "indifference" to possible **** tests, and avoidance is an attachment style that does not lead to satisfying relationships.

Would be like saying avoiding changing the oil on your car. Eventually you are going to blow your engine.

Perfect example

Therapists know that it's always women who drag their reluctant SO's into couples counseling (just like advertisers know that women make 80% of all purchase decisions regrading food and household items). If they want a repeat customer, they have to reach out to the woman. It's a fvcking scam.

Interesting perspective, we must admit there is truth here




I'd like to thank everyone for the interesting comments!