"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Your first approach

1life

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How was the first approach you made when you decided to become a true DJ?

Were you nervous? Did you get rejected? Or did you get her number?:woo:

I've never done a cold approach in my life, im not ugly or anything but I've just always and ALWAYS kept finding excuses. Yeah, I know, I'm pathetic. But when I see a hottie, I'm just paralysed, I feel nervous, my throat is sour, I'm sweating like a dog. So I find an excuse and decide to do nothing.

This will all change. It's over.

The only problem I have is how to initiate the first contact with the hottie. How to get the conversation started. I know the techniques (ie: say something about what she wears, where she bought that, or about something you noticed going on around, etc.). But as I said, I will work on that and approach AT LEAST 100 women this summer (I'm finishing school in 2weeks). I've been reading articles on this website for way too long, I've been thinking way too much.

It's over. Next time I see a HB, I will approach her. No matter how I feel about it, I have to do it.

Plan for this summer: Getting a cellphone, and sarging everywhere, I mean EVERYWHERE: park, downtown, movies, mall...everywhere.

I've never been a nice guy, I could have pimp'd any girl at my school, but they were just not my type or on my level in terms of look :whistle: or they always had a bf who was my friend:kick: (AM I TYPING SOME EXCUSES AGAIN!?!). I've got the confidence, the charisma, the ****yness. And I've been using some tips on the girls in my school and it works.

I'm all pumped! I will approach any fine LADIES now! and I'm not BULLSH+ITTING!
NO MORE excuses. NO MORE!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WC2

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Good to hear bro-

First approach I made as a DJ wasn't even me intending to be a DJ. In fact, I didn't even know what a DJ was when I made it. One night in the club I decided to be that confident guy who would try to strike up conversation with a supermodel. Approached plenty of girls that night, got 2 back to my place and the rest was history.

From that point on I had a good feeling of how girls really think. This site helps me polish up, but 90% of your results comes from your experience.
 

MARVEL IQ

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Good to hear. The one advice i have is learn all the types of openers there are. This is just cause situational opener can be very weak at times and it sometimes places immediately under the category of "every other guy".

So just do some research on all the types of openers, it's good to have variety.

Love,
Marvel IQ
 

Alittude

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Man good to hear Im right there with ya. I haven't done an actualy proper cold approach in my eyes. I have approached girls and gotten there number but I don't count them as actual cold approaches and my holdiays are soon so I'm gonna do it with you man.
 
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