Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Man, sometimes after I've been wailin out for more than an hour my middle fingers begin spasing on me like if I'm getting shocked..wtf?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Thats weird...It never happened to me before.
 

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Originally posted by guitaronfire411
Are you sure you're playing properly? Bad form can hurt.

Go read "Guitar Principles". (You can snatch the torrent anywhere)
www.guitarprinciples.com

He teaches you how unwanted tension is the number one cause of people not progressing and pain in their fingers, hands and shoulders
 
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I've never had that problem and I used to sit around and practice scales and very quick runs for hours on end. literally. Plug in and play in my bedroom for 5 hrs non stop. That was ages ago, back in highschool but now, we gig 3-4 nights a week and I still never get sore, or any twitching.... I wonder if you're not warming up properly?

Or it could very well be improper form, though I'd never think it was possible outside of classical guitar playing.

Thanx Eulogy for that link... I'm always up for looking at something new regarding playing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Get a Paul Reed Smith. I don't own one but have wanted one for years. Every time I play one at guitar center, they just seem to take the tension off your hand.

Plus many of them are so awesome looking with the wood grain and all that. I think I'll get one when I move out of my crack den neighborhood or this town completely.
 

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Originally posted by Ricky
Get a Paul Reed Smith. I don't own one but have wanted one for years. Every time I play one at guitar center, they just seem to take the tension off your hand.

Plus many of them are so awesome looking with the wood grain and all that. I think I'll get one when I move out of my crack den neighborhood or this town completely.
PRS are sweet guitars, but your logic doesn't make sense. Obviously, the OP is doing something wrong, whether it be form, warmup, etc.

Your advice is like saying to someone who can't drive "Oh, go buy a ferarri. It's no wonder you can't drive that honda". It's not the car, and it's not the guitar. It's the operator.
 

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Originally posted by Ricky
Get a Paul Reed Smith. I don't own one but have wanted one for years. Every time I play one at guitar center, they just seem to take the tension off your hand.

Plus many of them are so awesome looking with the wood grain and all that. I think I'll get one when I move out of my crack den neighborhood or this town completely.
Rofl. What the hell?
 

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Try to find a body awareness (eg Alexander Method) class in your area. You might be doing things you don't know that are making you tense. The more you play with tension, the higher risk of injury.
 

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Originally posted by Ricky
Get a Paul Reed Smith. I don't own one but have wanted one for years. Every time I play one at guitar center, they just seem to take the tension off your hand.

Plus many of them are so awesome looking with the wood grain and all that. I think I'll get one when I move out of my crack den neighborhood or this town completely.
I have a PRS McCarty, plus a few other different guitars (Gibson, Taylor, Ibanez) and none of them are any less comfortable to play.

That's kind of a weird statement, though getting a better quality guitar will be easier to play, it shouldn't have anything to do with the discomfort that Dimebag is talking about.

You might want to get checked out by a doc, man... Just to see if something isn't really wrong. Might be some tendonitis or carple tunnel (sp?) or something simmilar. Better to be safe, then risk fvcking uip your playing hand for good. I'd die if I couldn't play anymore.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
I've never had that problem and I used to sit around and practice scales and very quick runs for hours on end. literally. Plug in and play in my bedroom for 5 hrs non stop.
Ha, I thought I was the only one who practiced scales a lot. Everybody talks about how much they suck, but for some reason I can sit down and do them for hours and not get bored. Sometimes I worry I might do them too much and my other skills will lag behind.

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Originally posted by il_duce
Ha, I thought I was the only one who practiced scales a lot. Everybody talks about how much they suck, but for some reason I can sit down and do them for hours and not get bored. Sometimes I worry I might do them too much and my other skills will lag behind.

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I'm an old shredder influenced by late 80's/ early 90's rock and metal. Metallica, Testament, Extreme, Pantera... These guys know how to play guitar, and that's how I wanted to play too... you gotta learn every aspect of the guitar, to master it. Unfortunately, scales and modes are one thing that isn't on the fun side of playing, but once you start to understand how they work, it gets really easy... plus you build speed and dexterity and accuracy so you can rip out a really fast guitar solo. I admire guys who, in this day and age with the advent of 3 chord pvssy emo and alternative, can still play the guitar like a real pro.

You don't need to be able to do it to play in a succsseful band, but it's always nice to know that you CAN do it. The stuff I write is no where near shred guitar music. It's more along the lines of (as much as I really don't like them) Nickelback and such. It's a hard rock with catchy melodies and lyrics. Not a whole lot of room for a guitar solo, these days... but we're gonna try and bring that back :p
 
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yeah, I talked to some professional f*ck about it and he said I need to quit biting my fingernails....he's right.

Lately I've been learning stuff from Opeth though...they got some hard sh*t.. I learned some Opeth and everything else seems easy to play..

I can play real fast for only playing for 2 years, maybe thats not a good thing..oh well.
 
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