"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'm new to going out solo and I've seen this situation a couple of times now.

What I see:
A man and a women in a bar/club or walking down the street closely hugging each other, they seem attracted to each other. Except that there is another girl standing closely buy, either dancing (for attention?) Or if the 'couple' is walking she is following them around.

The lonely girl usually doesn't look happy. (Not mad either)

I think it comes from 2 girls going out and one of them gets approached and hooks up with a guy. But that guy is gaming just 1 girl but completely leaving out the other one.

So...
Is she an easy target? Also, how to open the set if she's just following them around on the street?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think she'd be the third wheel, I imagine she'd be very receptive to being gamed assuming you can find a way to inconspicuously approach(I.E without attracting the lingering attention of the couple too)
 
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devilkingx2 said:
I think she'd be the third wheel, I imagine she'd be very receptive to being gamed assuming you can find a way to inconspicuously approach(I.E without attracting the lingering attention of the couple too)
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I do not know how to do that when she's walking 3-5 meters behind them. Tips :)
 
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Well in a club I find that to be a golden opportunity. I've seen it done before and have done it myself. The 2nd girl is just standing a little further apart from the guy and girl dancing, looking a little glum.

Always go up to her.

I did it the other week. I saw her female friend dancing with a dude as we were leaving, the guy and girl started ballroom dancing and left this HB6 all alone as she danced just away from them. I didn't even think about it, but detached myself from my mates and went over to her. I bowed, and offered to dance, took her hands and copied the other guy by ballroom dancing with her.

2 minutes later we are making out and I haven't even asked her name. Was tempted to just take her home, but her mate came back and took her away, plus I was staying at a mates in a different city and was crashing on his sofa haha.

Anyway moral of the story, always go for that girl who is obviously number 3in the relationship ;)

For on the street I'd suggest saying anything, maybe pretend to ask for directions?

Gunner
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gunner26 said:
Well in a club I find that to be a golden opportunity. I've seen it done before and have done it myself. The 2nd girl is just standing a little further apart from the guy and girl dancing, looking a little glum.

Always go up to her.

I did it the other week. I saw her female friend dancing with a dude as we were leaving, the guy and girl started ballroom dancing and left this HB6 all alone as she danced just away from them. I didn't even think about it, but detached myself from my mates and went over to her. I bowed, and offered to dance, took her hands and copied the other guy by ballroom dancing with her.

2 minutes later we are making out and I haven't even asked her name. Was tempted to just take her home, but her mate came back and took her away, plus I was staying at a mates in a different city and was crashing on his sofa haha.

Anyway moral of the story, always go for that girl who is obviously number 3in the relationship ;)

For on the street I'd suggest saying anything, maybe pretend to ask for directions?

Gunner
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A lot of thanks.
 
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No worries, hope you get some the next time the situation arises.

Gunner
 
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