"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dedication

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I'm new to going out solo and I've seen this situation a couple of times now.

What I see:
A man and a women in a bar/club or walking down the street closely hugging each other, they seem attracted to each other. Except that there is another girl standing closely buy, either dancing (for attention?) Or if the 'couple' is walking she is following them around.

The lonely girl usually doesn't look happy. (Not mad either)

I think it comes from 2 girls going out and one of them gets approached and hooks up with a guy. But that guy is gaming just 1 girl but completely leaving out the other one.

So...
Is she an easy target? Also, how to open the set if she's just following them around on the street?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think she'd be the third wheel, I imagine she'd be very receptive to being gamed assuming you can find a way to inconspicuously approach(I.E without attracting the lingering attention of the couple too)
 

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devilkingx2 said:
I think she'd be the third wheel, I imagine she'd be very receptive to being gamed assuming you can find a way to inconspicuously approach(I.E without attracting the lingering attention of the couple too)
I do not know how to do that when she's walking 3-5 meters behind them. Tips :)
 

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Well in a club I find that to be a golden opportunity. I've seen it done before and have done it myself. The 2nd girl is just standing a little further apart from the guy and girl dancing, looking a little glum.

Always go up to her.

I did it the other week. I saw her female friend dancing with a dude as we were leaving, the guy and girl started ballroom dancing and left this HB6 all alone as she danced just away from them. I didn't even think about it, but detached myself from my mates and went over to her. I bowed, and offered to dance, took her hands and copied the other guy by ballroom dancing with her.

2 minutes later we are making out and I haven't even asked her name. Was tempted to just take her home, but her mate came back and took her away, plus I was staying at a mates in a different city and was crashing on his sofa haha.

Anyway moral of the story, always go for that girl who is obviously number 3in the relationship ;)

For on the street I'd suggest saying anything, maybe pretend to ask for directions?

Gunner
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gunner26 said:
Well in a club I find that to be a golden opportunity. I've seen it done before and have done it myself. The 2nd girl is just standing a little further apart from the guy and girl dancing, looking a little glum.

Always go up to her.

I did it the other week. I saw her female friend dancing with a dude as we were leaving, the guy and girl started ballroom dancing and left this HB6 all alone as she danced just away from them. I didn't even think about it, but detached myself from my mates and went over to her. I bowed, and offered to dance, took her hands and copied the other guy by ballroom dancing with her.

2 minutes later we are making out and I haven't even asked her name. Was tempted to just take her home, but her mate came back and took her away, plus I was staying at a mates in a different city and was crashing on his sofa haha.

Anyway moral of the story, always go for that girl who is obviously number 3in the relationship ;)

For on the street I'd suggest saying anything, maybe pretend to ask for directions?

Gunner
A lot of thanks.
 

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No worries, hope you get some the next time the situation arises.

Gunner
 
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