"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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one thing i have been lacking over the last few months is getting out of my comfort zone.

Sure, waking up everyday, taking a shower, heading to work, going to bjj or yoga sounds like fun but im getting tired of my routines. Having a routine is great, keeps me regular, keeps me safe.

But thats the thing. im tired of feeling safe, i want excitment, i want to venture out of my comfort zone. I want travel to europe, i want to ask that girl on the 8th floor out to dinner. i want to make a move on this other girl who ive been fawning over the last little bit. i want to end my regular routine and start a new one.

I think through this will help fill a void that has been growing larger and larger everyday. dont get me wrong. im not depressed or anything like that. Im a very positive person with great values.

its just that the goals that i have set almost a year ago, have almost been met and their has been a lack of challenges for myself to take on.

Im tired of feeling like a caged animal. I thinks its time to make a change. I think its time toget out of my comfort zone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So what specifically are you going to do? Sounds like you're restless and chomping at the bit, and that shows that you're ready for big changes.
 

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thats just it atom. i have to sit and write it what I want to do to reach a next level in my life.

I think by writing it down some new goals, would be best.

I dont know what specifically needs to be done but its going to be a fun filled evening tonight.
 

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While I fully support regular activities/hobbies as part of the DJ lifestyle, it can definitely make one feel confined at times.

Think of the things you guys do regularly such as the gym, martial arts, dance, music practice, meditation/yoga, etc. No matter how passionate you might be about these things, I think sometimes you need to take a break and do something spontaneous to keep life exciting. It could also mean changing hobbies or setting new goals.
 
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