"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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your bottleneck is your looks?

mackdaddy27

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i know the game a little but you know JUST TO PLAY THE game, you NEED A little attractiveness or a default set of attractiveness, which I think that I dont measure up. ( I will post pictures in the next few weeks)


because on days that I m good looking, when you talk to them , they are take thought to reply they are energetic and you an just feel they give you attention.

even on my worst looks day( yesterday) i had several IOIs, but when i approached them, they weren't so attracted as i originally thought. i dont know tonight someone has to pay.

however, on my bad days, it just feels like they are not energetic in their replys to your approach. of course, its hard to determine, because you dont know if its the girls personality per se or actually because shes not attracted

yesterday was an off day and I went ot hte strippie club, and i usually am able to have the girls come up to me and play when i make my looks better, but this time my looks were not so sharp as they usually are..and they were more distance beacuse of it


I think the key to my success in the future maybe on improving my loooks, basically , fix my hairstyle , lose weight, and probably a little cosmetic surgery..this is something i can work on in parallel to what i m doing now.


i know i can look good to attract them, i know what i have to do, I 'll try it today , try the different hairstyle, better clothes and etc.

p.s. ( THIS IS NOT A LOOKS THREAD, I M just talking about the default bare minimum looks you need to actually get a girl to give you attention)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Have you ever thought that maybe the problem isn't the days when you look bad? Maybe its the vibe you give off when you are sure you don't look good. I'm sure there's not that huge of a difference between one day and the next. Just stop looking in the mirror so much on those days, and focus on your attitude and behavior, not whether you are attractive enough that day.
 

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volfe said:
Have you ever thought that maybe the problem isn't the days when you look bad? Maybe its the vibe you give off when you are sure you don't look good. I'm sure there's not that huge of a difference between one day and the next. Just stop looking in the mirror so much on those days, and focus on your attitude and behavior, not whether you are attractive enough that day.

thanks for that, .. hopefully today we'll give it another try to night

thanks, for that again, its sometimes funny that something so simple as that is so true...
 

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DonGorgon said:
Women above HB6s are very picky about looks... so if you are ugly you better aim low.
OR... You better have a helluva personality and turn up that charm a few thousand watts.

Looks and money are only part of the equation, folks.

I know quite a few ugly players that do quite well for themselves. Life dealt them a sh!tty hand (short, bald, hook-nose) but these guys have great game and know how to push a woman's buttons.

One of the most common misconceptions is expecting women to have the same criteria that men do, but it's not exactly the same.

Men are visual creatures. We enjoy explicit porn, with all the gory visual details.

Women are stimulated more by their feelings, which is why they love those cheesy novels with Fabio on the cover. If they do watch porn, it tends to lean more towards erotica than the hardcore stuff.

The bottom line is that we are both wired to respond to different things.

Looks do count for certain, but women are a lot more forgiving of them than we are.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No, don't post pictures in the next few weeks, post them NOW. And people will quickly tell you if, in terms of looks your in fact ugly (think rapper lil Wayne), or you just are insecure (like this poster wutang, complains abt height).
 

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I would agree with the first reply. It's probably not your looks but rather the vibe you give off on days you believe you look good / bad. You exude a confident vibe when you feel you look your best and demonstrate mild insecurity when you feel you look bad.

I'd say it's all psychological man.

Kudos,
Matt
 

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DonGorgon said:
Women above HB6s are very picky about looks... so if you are ugly you better aim low.
L.O.S.E.R

Do you ever post anything apart from self-fulfilling pessimism?
 

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L777 said:
L.O.S.E.R

Do you ever post anything apart from self-fulfilling pessimism?
Its true though. All girls have a base level of looks required, and if you are lower than that, you better be a billionaire or celebrity. Its just some have lower base levels than others.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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LostAndConfused said:
Its true though. All girls have a base level of looks required, and if you are lower than that, you better be a billionaire or celebrity. Its just some have lower base levels than others.
Is it f.uck. I have 'ugly' friends and I make sure that they don't aim low...you're only as good at this game as what you choose to believe.
 
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