"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Your best one word response if ANY to a text breakup?

Naughty Ninja

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You know the deal. You get the coward chick who tries to breakup with you over text.

(I personally would go ghost. No contact. It drives them nuts with wondering..)

But, if you simply could not restrain yourself from replying with a ONE or two WORD reply to a chick breaking up with you over text what would you use to come off as not affected by her attempt before vanishing completely?

A few come to mind. Again I wouldn't bother replying, but for other dudes who felt they HAD to...

"Ok"

"Aiiight."

"Dueces kid."

or simply: "Ghost"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jariel

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I always accept rejection gracefully. "No problem. It's been fun. All the best. x"

I think it's good to show you can handle rejection because it shows her you're a strong person and not an emotional liability, so it leaves the door open for anything that might happen in the future.

In my opinion, one word answers don't convey indifference as they remind me too much of a sulking woman.
 

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Similar, I broke up with a girl over the phone cause the ***** wouldn't see me and I said its over. Told her no hard feelings, I wish you the best.
 

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The word is no word at all.

No Contact. She isn't giving you what you want so you walk. That is the rule. There is never any whining or nagging her about what she doesn't do.

As Jarial noted, one of the biggest tests a woman will ever put you through is to see you how handle her dumping you. If you handle it right (and it's a small chance) you can increase her interest level. While she'll still do whatever she was going to do, she'll probably come back within 10 days.

The attitude must be one of abundance. For example, yesterday I texted my gf to confirm whether we were going out last night to celebrate Valentine's at midnight. At first I was worried she wouldn't text back. Then I started HOPING she wouldn't - I would save money and get to go out by myself. Of course, she showed up on time to the minute.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One reply after she gives the 'breakup' keeping it polite etc etc and ignore ignore ignore and move on with your life.
 

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Either nothing at all or:

ok

No period, just the two letters. Conveys minimal investment.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If I were to send a one or two word response it would most likely be a wise ass one and that's it.

Hilarious, cool, or You're silly. Those would most likely would get a chick extremely pissed especially if you go complete ghost afterward.

Never did that before though. Just vanished. Just a thread for dudes who can't restrain themselves at having the last word if a breakup is done to them over text.
 

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"Sounds good. See you around"

Last year around this time I'd been seeing this girl, we weren't exclusive, but she sure led me like we were. She dropped me hard over text, and being pretty sure another guy was in the picture, I experimented and responded with "that's fine, I had my eye on someone else anyways" and went NC. She was back in a week or two.
 

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I'm of the opinion the best thing you can do or say is: NOTHING! Don't even give them the satisfaction of closure. Keep em wondering.
 

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Say nothing.

Breaking up over text is tacky. Don't reward her with any type of closure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jeffst1980 said:
Say nothing.

Breaking up over text is tacky. Don't reward her with any type of closure.
How about if I do an overdramatic, "Noooooooo" and then never speak to her again?

I'm kind of joking, but now that I think about it, I feel like making fun of her breakup attemp kind of deflates any ego boost she'd get by pulling a move like that.
 

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Iceberg said:
How about if I do an overdramatic, "Noooooooo" and then never speak to her again?

I'm kind of joking, but now that I think about it, I feel like making fun of her breakup attemp kind of deflates any ego boost she'd get by pulling a move like that.
I Like this one. It would probably get a chuckle. I' send the "nooooo.. my heart is crushed ahh." Immediately followed by "Im. Jk. You're a sweet girl and I truly wish you the best. It was fun."
 

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Iceberg said:
How about if I do an overdramatic, "Noooooooo /vader" and then never speak to her again?
There, improved it fer ya! :D
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
I Like this one. It would probably get a chuckle. I' send the "nooooo.. my heart is crushed ahh." Immediately followed by "Im. Jk. You're a sweet girl and I truly wish you the best. It was fun."
I actually did something similar once. I went on one date with this girl, and didn't really like her, but a few days later, I tried to be nice and sent a text saying, "It was nice meeting you."

An hour later she replied with some 4-paragraph text talking about "I believe in honesty, and I just want to say that I don't see us moving forward romantically. We can be friend, blah blah..."

First I'm thinking to myself - I met this chick once. Why give me some long-winded break up when I barely know you. Just ignore my text.

Anyway, so I replied in all caps and exclamation points, "WHAT!!!!" Then I said, "Just kidding. Sure, we're friends." and that was it.

I don't know where this fits into the DJ philosophy, but I was just having fun with a girl who, apparently, takes dating way too seriously.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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