"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your Always Frame

Reykhel

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A lot of threads here, at least from the newbies, are the problem of weak FRAME

What's clear is that we can fake some frames and we can have a lot of situational frames also....

But listen, I think it's fundamental that you have a backup fundamental frame.....

WTF is that? say for example you were arrested tonight.........they hand cuffed your ass and threw you in the car........you know what's going to happen?? You're true frame is going to come out, boy...

.....if you're a b!tch and that's your real inner frame.....guess what? You're going to cry like a b!tch.
....if you have a fake frame and they lock you up.......the little boy is going to come out...

.....if you thing you're a PRINCE and then they throw you in the cell......and you're not a prince.......you're going to be found out.......you're going to cry like a b!tch

However, if You are a PRINCE and you breath and you live like you are a prince. When trouble hits you.......for it will, rest assured..........then that fvcking PRINCE will stay intact

If you don't have a backup FRAME to go to and that FRAME is not real..........gentlemen, what the fvck is going to come out when you are thrown in that cell?

of course, when I talk about CELL it's a metaphor for the problems of life
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There is no " back up " frame. You are what you know you are. Introspection is key to knowing that.
When life throws you ****, you either deal with it in the best possible way, run away, or as you say "cry like a *****".
 
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There is no " back up " frame. You are what you know you are. Introspection is key to that.
When life throws you ****, you either deal with it, run away, or cry.
Then you simply do not get FRAME.

We are who we are is a cop out. But sometimes it's a find out....

I'm talking about adversity my friend, when your back is thrown to the wall....

You are who you are? Maybe. what about a back up Frame? what if you are who
you are is not handling being thrown against a wall? Got a back up frame that you can
slip into?

David Banner? "You won't like me when I'm angry"

extreme example but surely you get my point?
 

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Yes, dealt with adversity many times. If the situation is severe enough, you will not get through it by pretending to have a certain frame, aka not who you are.
If your inner frame or personality is weak, self improvement is key.
 
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Yes, dealt with adversity many times. If the situation is severe enough, you will not get through it by pretending to have a certain frame, aka not who you are.
If your inner frame or personality is weak, self improvement is key.
Well don't be a faggot and understand my or our audience .....

 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Giddy, like a fat kid in a cake shop. That's what we don't want, right?
 

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Frame ultimately has to come naturally. I went through many, many years where I had frame but I had to work at it and think about it in order to keep it. It was maturing and growing. Eventually I reached a point where it came naturally.. And from then on I never had to think about it again. It just was. And that's how I am now. I noticed that once I got to this point I got 100x more respect from people, people I know and strangers alike. For me anyway, frame came in parallel with mental toughness. Going through many things in life and getting through them built both frame and mental toughness at the same time.
 
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