Whenever you are making a move, advancing the relationship, from the very first beginning step (that is, the number), don't ask! This is the key in being assertive and staying in control. For every question you could ask, you can be assertive and use a statement.
Examples:
What's your home phone number? should be
Let's exchange numbers so we can go get that cup of coffee (If you prefer not to "exchange", then tell her to give it to you).
Can you go out this weekend? and
Do you want to go ice skating? should be
Hey, let's go ice skating this Thursday or Friday.
In short, every "can you" and "do you want to" and "I was wondering if you" needs to be abolished from your vocabulary! Even when you're having sex with her:
Can you suck it now? should definitely be
Put your mouth on <insert body part>.
What is the point of this tip? It's so YOU can get used to being assertive. Simple changes in words have a powerful effect--and not only does it affect those you speak to, but it helps you understand where the control lies. It lies with you. And you'll get turned down a lot less. Guaranteed.
cynetix
Examples:
What's your home phone number? should be
Let's exchange numbers so we can go get that cup of coffee (If you prefer not to "exchange", then tell her to give it to you).
Can you go out this weekend? and
Do you want to go ice skating? should be
Hey, let's go ice skating this Thursday or Friday.
In short, every "can you" and "do you want to" and "I was wondering if you" needs to be abolished from your vocabulary! Even when you're having sex with her:
Can you suck it now? should definitely be
Put your mouth on <insert body part>.
What is the point of this tip? It's so YOU can get used to being assertive. Simple changes in words have a powerful effect--and not only does it affect those you speak to, but it helps you understand where the control lies. It lies with you. And you'll get turned down a lot less. Guaranteed.
cynetix