T From CA
Don Juan
You're a ball player so just think of this as your training camp. Right now you're just prepping yourself for the regular season. 
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
YoungSir DayGame Direct Journal
- Thread starter YoungSir4sho
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Been training and I had a few girls this summer.. Though not from me going outside talking.. Unfortunately again it was from either online website or a phone chatline..
So it's about to me my Birthday in less then 2weeks n I'm single again now.. I need to try n get this approach anxiety gone b4 I turn 26 so I'm going to talk to as many girls as I can b4 my bday.. Also my goal is to have a few good girls reliable b4 oct cuz that's when I'm goin to basically stay at my crib after work just playing nba2k11 on da 360 lol practicing for a video gm tourney.. So yea that's the goals..
So it's about to me my Birthday in less then 2weeks n I'm single again now.. I need to try n get this approach anxiety gone b4 I turn 26 so I'm going to talk to as many girls as I can b4 my bday.. Also my goal is to have a few good girls reliable b4 oct cuz that's when I'm goin to basically stay at my crib after work just playing nba2k11 on da 360 lol practicing for a video gm tourney.. So yea that's the goals..
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
As I type dis on my iPhone.. Jus finished sayin how u doin to a girl but she jus looked at me lol... I'm walkin now prolly go to a mall n holla by myself... Imma talk to as many as I see dat I like so in an hour or 2 i report bac on Here n I'm goin direct...
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Let me keep it real with every1 in here.. I feel disgusted wit myself... I got home like 2 hours ago jus woke up...
I only talked to 1 girl which was da 1st one hours ago... Like i said before I said how u doin n she said nuttin.. So i decided to keep walkin n walk to barnes n noble... Few blocks b4 that i see this hb8 walk with her friend.. I was going to say can I talk with u but I didn't say anything then they passed me by.. I felt terrible cuz I didn't say anything..
I go inside barns n noble but it was dead inside so I left.. I decide to go to mcdonalds.. When I walk pass these girls sitting down one said softly to her friend to look behind her n I'm assuming she was talkin bout me.. I get on line order my stuff.. Mins later when i was going to leave those 2girls put there hands out so guess fo me to move it or say something but I avoided it n left then I heard da good lookin girl say awwww.. Man i felt sick from not saying something again...
WTF is wrong wit me... I actually cared bout getting rejected.. I have to note that i was by myself today so it felt like it was da world against me... Idk I want to conquer my fears n get thru this stage of my life.. It seems like if I'm about to go put myself out there n if I fail then it would suck or something... I can take rejection believe me but i guess my ego won't let me keep getting rejected.. It's bs... I need to get over this...
Tom I'm going to manhattan to talk to girls Fo a few hours.. I'm gonna Do it solo again cuz i feel it's more of a challenge if I can get thru this big problem by myself... I'm very dissapointed in myself...
I only talked to 1 girl which was da 1st one hours ago... Like i said before I said how u doin n she said nuttin.. So i decided to keep walkin n walk to barnes n noble... Few blocks b4 that i see this hb8 walk with her friend.. I was going to say can I talk with u but I didn't say anything then they passed me by.. I felt terrible cuz I didn't say anything..
I go inside barns n noble but it was dead inside so I left.. I decide to go to mcdonalds.. When I walk pass these girls sitting down one said softly to her friend to look behind her n I'm assuming she was talkin bout me.. I get on line order my stuff.. Mins later when i was going to leave those 2girls put there hands out so guess fo me to move it or say something but I avoided it n left then I heard da good lookin girl say awwww.. Man i felt sick from not saying something again...
WTF is wrong wit me... I actually cared bout getting rejected.. I have to note that i was by myself today so it felt like it was da world against me... Idk I want to conquer my fears n get thru this stage of my life.. It seems like if I'm about to go put myself out there n if I fail then it would suck or something... I can take rejection believe me but i guess my ego won't let me keep getting rejected.. It's bs... I need to get over this...
Tom I'm going to manhattan to talk to girls Fo a few hours.. I'm gonna Do it solo again cuz i feel it's more of a challenge if I can get thru this big problem by myself... I'm very dissapointed in myself...
Just dust yourself off and try harder next time. There will be up days and down days but what you should remember is that if you let the down days effect, you, women will sense it. Women have high social iq's and can sniff out desperation and anxiety from a block away. It's just how they are wired. You've gotta find a constant, perpetual state where no matter what happens, success or fail, you always feel good and confident with yourself
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
TLC knocked the nail on the head, don't be to rough on yourself, but if you see girls making eye contact or going out their way to be closer to you. Don't be afraid a simple "hello" does a lot more then no action.TIC said:
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Thx fo the advice guys.. Y'all right tho... I have to get it together no matter what.. Hopefully today will b a better outcome.. I mean it's easy to say that I don't care about rejection n that we can all get rejected a million times but idk sometimes I don't like that feeling.. I know I'm going to have to fight thru this until a breakthru happens... I rather try then regret cuz I'm telling u regret does not feel good at all.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Typo
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
Well let me start of by saying after reading a few older posters from years ago.. I will b using the are u single line as my direct approach..
I used it 10 times today.. 9 said they was married or had a bf.. 1 while I was on da street, she was walking right beside me..
Youngsir: let me ask u a ?
Hb7: looks at me
Youngsir: are u single?
Hb7.. Yea
Youngsir: kind of suprised cuz was used to hearin no all day was thinking this in my head lol.. I said Can I talk to u.
I know that's where I messed up cuz I kind of stuttered saying that also...
Hb7: No
Then less den a min later I see her hug n greet her friend.. So maybe she said.No to me not talking to her cuz she was meeting with her friend.
Either way I messed up.. When a girl does say yea she is single.. I'm either goin to say well i have to go but let's meet up soon so let me get ur number...
I used it 10 times today.. 9 said they was married or had a bf.. 1 while I was on da street, she was walking right beside me..
Youngsir: let me ask u a ?
Hb7: looks at me
Youngsir: are u single?
Hb7.. Yea
Youngsir: kind of suprised cuz was used to hearin no all day was thinking this in my head lol.. I said Can I talk to u.
I know that's where I messed up cuz I kind of stuttered saying that also...
Hb7: No
Then less den a min later I see her hug n greet her friend.. So maybe she said.No to me not talking to her cuz she was meeting with her friend.
Either way I messed up.. When a girl does say yea she is single.. I'm either goin to say well i have to go but let's meet up soon so let me get ur number...
Keep it up don't stop. Real men walk through failure. I suggest hitting more nightclubs and bars though, because direct day game is very difficult. American society is not tailored for that kind of openness; we are all taught from an early age not to talk or trust strangers.
We do not trust our fellow neighbor here in this country. That is why the vast majority of relationships you see came about through social circles and clicks; not cold approaches in the daytime.
You can keep doing the day-game, but the more success I have in nightclubs the more I realize that its best to game chicks where they expect to be gamed.
Thats just me. I'm sure other people will call me AFC for it, but I've thought this through and can see no other explanation
We do not trust our fellow neighbor here in this country. That is why the vast majority of relationships you see came about through social circles and clicks; not cold approaches in the daytime.
You can keep doing the day-game, but the more success I have in nightclubs the more I realize that its best to game chicks where they expect to be gamed.
Thats just me. I'm sure other people will call me AFC for it, but I've thought this through and can see no other explanation
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
YoungSir4sho
Senior Don Juan
I understand about da nightgame.. I would like to handle that whole atmosphere... But a major part y I do daygame is cuz of my work scheldue.. work from 12am to 8am 5 days a week off on weekends.. I mean I could go to clubs etc fri night n sat night.. Honestly I rather just handle n master daygame da most hardest part 1st..
I realize it is hard to build a relationship from daygame.. And primarily that is my goal. I'm not gonna quit no matter how many times I get rejected. I did leave out a part that I got this mcdonald girl number yesterday but she has a kid n I knew her fo awhile since I used to go there almost everyday... N I'm skinny lmaoo..
I realize it is hard to build a relationship from daygame.. And primarily that is my goal. I'm not gonna quit no matter how many times I get rejected. I did leave out a part that I got this mcdonald girl number yesterday but she has a kid n I knew her fo awhile since I used to go there almost everyday... N I'm skinny lmaoo..