BobB
New Member
I need some opinions on what people think is going on here with this situation. If I screwed up royally, I need to know where I went wrong --- if it's her, then I can sleep easier at night. Here's the lowdown: I'm 41, divorced with one daughter, and work in an office. For about the last 9-10 months, this single, 25 year old woman who works in my department has been coming up to my desk, asking me questions about my interests and my personal life, and proceeding to tell me almost every single detail of her life whether I cared to know or not. For the longest time, I just looked at her as this "pesky kid", and never really paid her much mind. That was, until about one month ago, when she told me that a co-worker in our office had kept asking her why her and I weren't going out. She's not bad looking, and I began thinking about long-term sexual possibilities if not relationship possibilities. So, I tried to play nice and asked her to join me for dinner on the weekend and to see a local band. I obtained her phone number, picked her up at her condo, and it was a pleasant, innocuous evening in which nothing was expected and nothing happened, but we enjoyed each other's company and conversation and found that we had some interests in common. The following week had pleasant conversation and flirting as usual at work, and I began thinking that dating might actually be OK. So when the weekend arose, I called her at home and left a message that said "I like you and if you agree, I think I would like to try going out with you. If you want to think about it, that's fine". That was this past weekend, and ever since the new work week has begun, she has been avoiding me like the plague and running into the women's bathroom whenever she sees me approaching in the same direction !! What gives ?! I guess I'm dumb when it comes to this sort of thing, but I don't get it. It seemed that all of the indications were there. Please help me with some insight --it's very frustrating.