"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Young Women and Rapid Weight Gain

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It's now happened to me THREE times in the past 5 years (at least).

I meet a girl who is about 20 years old and she has one of the hottest bodies I've ever seen, and I manage to get her to fall in love with me and - voila - within about 10 weeks I observe (usually first in photos) that she has clearly gained a significant amount of weight (10% of their body weight).

I met a girl from Romania who said she immediately started gaining weight when she moved to the US and suspects it is dietary. I myself have had to struggle at times to keep weight off. Might Hillary supporters be spiking the food with chemicals to make everyone in the US unattractive like they are? Because, you know, Russian hacking and fake news?

Seriously, what is going on?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Contraceptive pill usually does it. Was discussing contraception with my flatmate last night. She was saying she only goes on the pill when she gets a bf. Weight gain is a common side effect, depending which one they take.
 

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I love it when a hot woman gets fat... or when a pretty girl chops off her hair...

This is the standard American diet of Burger, Fries, Coke, Sundae...

How the hell some women manage to stay skinny in the US is beyond me.
 

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It's now happened to me THREE times in the past 5 years (at least).

I meet a girl who is about 20 years old and she has one of the hottest bodies I've ever seen, and I manage to get her to fall in love with me and - voila - within about 10 weeks I observe (usually first in photos) that she has clearly gained a significant amount of weight (10% of their body weight).

I met a girl from Romania who said she immediately started gaining weight when she moved to the US and suspects it is dietary. I myself have had to struggle at times to keep weight off. Might Hillary supporters be spiking the food with chemicals to make everyone in the US unattractive like they are? Because, you know, Russian hacking and fake news?

Seriously, what is going on?
Hillary involved? *blank stare*....anyway...

It's happening all over the US, in the past 10 years, there's been a serious obesity epidemic. There's a plague of even childhood obesity thanks to their parents.

I recall when I was younger and doing online dating, my mid 20s, I'd be surprised at the amount of fat chicks under 21 that were big girls.

SUGAR is a biggie. There's more in more sugar in our packaged foods. Sugar also goes by different names now in the ingredients.

SUGAR is the "big tobacco" of the 2000s. Then there is, of course, lack of activity in their lives.

I meet a girl who is about 20 years old and she has one of the hottest bodies I've ever seen, and I manage to get her to fall in love with me and - voila - within about 10 weeks I observe (usually first in photos) that she has clearly gained a significant amount of weight (10% of their body weight).

Because in Romania, their food is probably fresh and unpackaged/unprocessed.

Funny, I have noticed some of the women online that had rejected me, over the years of them being on Match/POF/OK Cupid, that they started gaining weight in their photos...I was like "Woah, bullet dodged!" lol

I have noticed also, that some chunky women won't date thinner men the same way tall women won't date short men. They don't like appearing "bigger' than their partner.
 

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Guys- birth control has been around for a lot of years. 20yrs ago, when I was in my 20's many were on it and they weren't fat like most are now. Its called poor food choices and too much sitting on your azz which all equates to little self discipline.

I'm disgusted by the amount of 20 something women that are fatties(+25lbs over or more). I even see it in the $trip clubs. Today's 20 year old talent is not on par with the 20year old talent from several years ago.

Every time I go to a restaurant I look around. 80% are over weight. Usually more fat women than men.

I also notice when I am at the gym that its always 70% men.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Americans are among the most obèse with the mid-east countries.

Its a fact.

Junk food
Sugar
Salt
Huge portions
Lack of exercise

Also, myself I notice women body change over the years. How some were slim than gained weight.

That's why conservation is a dating criteria for me :p
 

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Calories, way too many.
 

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Guys- birth control has been around for a lot of years. 20yrs ago, when I was in my 20's many were on it and they weren't fat like most are now.

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No doubt diet also plays a massive part. You see it in the UK more now as well. Whereas Europeans in the city still look vibrant and healthy because they have been brought up with good dietary habits.

Another thing is that a woman might stop making so much effort when she gets comfortable with a man. She might work out less, go to lunch with her GFs more instead etc etc; she has less motivation to keep one man impressed as an attached woman, than she does a whole world of men as single woman, sad as it is.

You don't need to stay with a bird who lets herself go over the course of a couple of months. She should be making the same effort after two years as she did on day one.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I want to know how many of you guys date girls that aren't Thin, Slender, or Athletic? And why would you?
I think we need more fat shaming in America! MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN.
 

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I want to know how many of you guys date girls that aren't Thin, Slender, or Athletic? And why would you?
I think we need more fat shaming in America! MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN.
Yes fat is ugly, it ruins curves and lines!!!

Big turnoff!!!

Put the fork down....ladies!!!
 

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If you're taking them out into eat
This is what I was wondering. Are you taking these girls out to eat a lot, Neil? Most restaurant meals are oversized, and full of sugar and extra calories. Especially if the girls are tiny to begin with.

If you both order the same thing (for example), obviously it's going to sit differently on a 5' 4", 110 lb. girl than on a guy who's 6'5" and 240 (or whatever it might be).
 

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She's not on birth control, but since she had the boob job, it's like the rest of her body increased to match.
 

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These girls are gaining weight at a rate of 1% body mass per week. And they are 1000 weeks old. At that rate a 100 pound, 20 year old girl would weigh 1100 pounds by age 40.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lol well I'm not complaining XD
 

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This is what I was wondering. Are you taking these girls out to eat a lot, Neil? Most restaurant meals are oversized, and full of sugar and extra calories. Especially if the girls are tiny to begin with.

If you both order the same thing (for example), obviously it's going to sit differently on a 5' 4", 110 lb. girl than on a guy who's 6'5" and 240 (or whatever it might be).
Good point about portion sizes. I love how women insist on not only eating precisely half the food on the table, but they tend to eat twice as fast as I do (and I weigh twice as much, at least for now).

There ought to be an app that sets off an alarm when our dates make gluttons of themselves.
 

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I once had a stripper get fat and when she asked if I wanted a table dance I said "What is this, pay what you weigh?"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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