Young man needing relationship advice

[mrgoodstuff]

Let her catch you with another girl in your bed. I would do it in a heartbeat.

That would be a powerful reframe. And his trodden and "used" image in her mind unstantly replaced.

I say if you take action like this dont do it for "revenge" Thats like a girl. Do it because it is something that needs to be done. Do it with strength.

 

[Ranger]

“OMG you had another woman in our apartment.”

“No big deal babe. It was just sex. You know how that works.”

 

[Spaz]

Disgusting, I'll get straight to the point and you don't need more sugar coating bull crap in ur life. That's what brought you into ur current situation.

There's no reframing to be done at this stage. Everything you do or could do even with new found Godlike masculine powers is utterly useless now.

Don't waste more of ur fvcking time being a slave. It's pathetic and it disgraces ur father, ur grandfather, ur great grandfather and his father before him.

Ur only option is dismissing her completely from every facet of ur pathetic miserable piece of shiet existence that u call a life.

Then start building frame and destroy all those chains that binds you in fear, weakness, oneitis, etc.

Go find POOK threads. Read those, if you don't understand anything come back to us and we'll gladly explain.

 

[BeExcellent]

Here's a little landlord advice. Move out.

She is on the lease. So guess what? She stays put? She's legally responsible for ALL the rent. If your lease says "jointly & severally" responsible for rent? That means whoever lives there pays it ALL.

Move out. Let her pay it all herself. If she doesn't, then see if she moves. If she doesn't they will evict her (and you technically)...

In other words you are NOT stuck. You are choosing to accept a crappy situation. Wake up! You don't need to accept such a situation.

Otherwise break up with her & start banging other girls right I front of her. She'll move in all likelihood. Insist that she start paying half the rent. Starting this month. Demote her to roommate. You are going to have to recapture your balls & put your big boy pants on. Post haste.

Explore your options regarding the lease. Seriously.

 

[Serenity]

Should I attempt to make her leave knowing how messy that'd be?

I would surely quit obeying, refuse to give her what she wants and ignore her rage. The funniest thing is remaining calm and watch them expend a ton of energy raging, then calmly tell them to keep going but it isn't going to work. It will piss her off like crazy. Notice how it turns the tables, you become the one in control simply by taking it. This forces her into two choices, she can fall in line or remove herself. She won't rage endlessly with no effect, it's too exhausting, so she is forced to choose.

 

[Glassguy]

You've been taken advantage of. Grab your ballz and either move out or kick her out. Don't even get into discussion about it with her.

Find new women. Apply your new mentality and do things that benefit you in terms of women.

You'll never paint a masterpiece over a tainted canvas

 

[The_411]

I appreciate all the responses!

Dedinova, to answer your question. We rarely have sex — the only thing I’m getting out of it is the ONEities thing. (Yes still a beta chump)

I also kinda feel bad for her as well. Given that I’m the main provider part of me worries about what will happen to her when I leave. This is probably the biggest thing that’s holding me back. I don’t want to ruin her life, but I’m ruining my own because I’m an idiot.

It’s not your problem.

Anytime you get stuck just remember the airplane safety rule. “Put your mask on first before assisting others”.

Acknowledge your mistakes end this crap and be thankful you learned this hard lesson now in stead of in 10 years when it is harder to start over.