Most guys start off their relationship by doing kind and generous acts for their new woman to 'entice' her. Dinners, dates, trips, flowers, jewelery, gifts and so on.
Perhaps he also fixes her plumbing while she sits on the couch with a cool drink or he washes her car or rotates her tires. All these gestures WORK. THey achieve their basic objective in drawing her closer by demonstrating his VALUE to her as a guy who can 'provide', and take care of the everyday stuff.
These acts are seen by many women as his attempts to 'win' her and keep her.
It is almost guaranteed that she will continue to expect this arrangement to continue into marriage. Why wouldn't she ?
Contrast that situation with one in which the more aware DJ does much the same things for her BUT within a context of 'reward' for her exemplarary behavior, her respect and devotion to him, and her compliance with his expectations of her.
He treats her well and is generous AFTER she has shown by her actions that she deserves to be treated generously. She earns those privileges.
Again, if this relationship proceeds to marriage, it does so on the basis of the fine print in the behavioral 'contract' which has been established between them.
It is all about context gentlemen.And it also about being consistent and congruent though all her tests.
Ultimately you have the choice to become her slave, or her hero. Like it or not, you will initiate this process from the first moment that you and she meet.
